I am happily married but I was on myspace the other day and found my first love that I have not spoke to in over 6 years and I emailed her. I do not intend on doing anything with her or even meet in person. I would like to tell her how much she changed me for the better when we broke up because I realized what an AS$ I was. I did not tell my wife and I still feel a little weird about the whole thing. Should I tell my wife or because I have no intention of doing anything more than a few emails should I not bother, because I’m sure that me talking to an X is not something she would like.
2006-11-01 05:53:35 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can tell your ex that your relationship made you a better person and you thank her for that. Just send a simple thank you email, explaining that you accidentally found her on myspace and give an update about you, that you're married and what you do and towards the end of the email, apologize for being an A$$ in your relationship but you learned to become a better person and you thank her for that and you hope that she is happy and doing well.
Do not start talking to each other again to where your both discussing your feelings that you usually do not share with your mates because that's another form of cheating. Keep the conversation civil.
And do not tell your wife about your ex, unless you want to stir up and argument and have her resent you for it.
2006-11-01 06:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely tell your wife! Imagine how it would affect you if it was her in a reverse situation? If it is that "weird" for you then I suggest you not contact your ex anymore and conveniently loose her info!!! Even if you have no intention on doing anything more than a few e-mails, this is how other things can start, if you really love your wife and your relationship is good, then she needs to know about the emails. If you are honest and you just want to thank the ex for helping you, your wife should understand. Good Luck
2006-11-01 14:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by dpbuck10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me just say I got rid of my MySpace because all these old guy friends and ex boyfriends are on it and it just caused extra stress in my relationship. The way I see it is all the people I want in my life I can call up, I don't need something like that to cause chaos. But as for your situation, I think you should tell your wife if you feel you must do it because if she found out you did it behind her back she'll be pissed and never trust you on the site again. But personally, I think you shouldn't even bother. You guys have both moved on from that phase on your life, why rehash it. Don't give her credit for the man you are now, you made that change all on your own....you found someone who made you want to change, dont taint it.
2006-11-01 14:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jaime P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its really not a big deal why not tell her. You could not help having a life before meeting your future wife . Right? Well seems to me you can not let go of your pass because of those what ifs floating around in your head.
Stop emailing you first Love, emphasis in first Love. Hello! Because no matter how hard you try to convince yourself nothings going to happen something will and its a high chance you will ruin your marriage.
Hey, if you want the truth I'll give it you, if you want lies and someone to glaze it over look somewhere else.
You sound like a okay guy I hope you make the right decision. God Bless!
2006-11-02 14:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing, found an old bf who changed my mind set on alot of things. So yes I sent out the email. How I told my hubby...told him the story about how that person changed my life and why. Told him I had emailed him, and SHOWED all communication between us. I made sure whenever I got something he was there to read it with me.
Of course there was nothing except alot of talking about kids, where so & so ended up that kind of thing. Nothing sexy, or want you back type stuff at all...just 2 old friends catching up. He was glad I told him, and never thought anything of it.
Honesty is the key to a successful marriage. Don't hide anything just be open.
2006-11-01 14:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she probably wont like you talking to an ex at all but you should tell her because if she finds out that you e mailed and did not tell her she will think you are hiding something and the situation will be way worse a marriage is based on trust so don't lose hers remember people who have nothing to hide hide nothing
2006-11-01 13:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not do anything behind your wife's back. First of all, you are betraying your wife by sneaking around, even if you believe it to be innocent, with this other woman. Second, when your wife finds out, will she believe that it is innocent when you have been lying about it. Once the seeds of mistrust have been planted, it is very difficult to kill the root.
2006-11-01 13:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hy.i will tell u.i m living the worst time n my life.-i beleive in friendship between man and women.but.i m in love now with one of my best friend....i cant beleive how it happenes?.i got separated due this. cause i am married.and this friend s crazy bout me that i could never imagine..!!and we ve great times..but....with lots of problems.couse we l ve to hide from other.so u can contact or meet this person,but....be carefull.couse you never know! maybe you still ve some strange feelings for her.or she....and.....then.something may happen!!
but if u re sure and u love ur wife....the nothing ll happen.-wish u luck.!
2006-11-01 14:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't stop now it will lead to far more than a few e-mails..and U know it..If U can't tell UR wife it is not innocent.
2006-11-01 13:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry dude.... I'll tell her for you when I see her tonight!!!
Just joking... No need to mention anything. If you feel guilty go out and buy her some roses, for no reason and then take her to bed... Just like im going to do
2006-11-01 14:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mike S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋