I help with the dishes, cooking, cleaning and laundry that sort of thing. I do it so my wife isn't so tired and it also shows how much I love and appreciate her. We've been having sex more often and more intensely. Am I wrong in seeing a direct relationship between the two?
2006-11-01 05:38:57 · 28 answers · asked by St.Anger 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow... do you have a clone? :)
Yes, helping around the house is something you should be doing anyway, and it keeps her from being overly tired and more likely to put out, so you get your 'reward' in the end.
2006-11-01 05:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
IF you both work, then the answer is: No, the man helping around the house simply means he's going to have a cleaner house to come home to each day. But it also means that you know and accept that household chores are both your duties and not hers alone. This will get you some extra loving just for showing her you see her as your equal not your maid.
IF you are the bread winner and she stays home (think Ward and June Cleaver here) the answer will be: Yes, you will definitely get somethin'-somethin' more often just for showing her how much you do appreciate, respect and love her by helping her out around the house.
You're a good man in either case.
2006-11-01 14:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a dangerous game that is played out all the time. Never, Never give with an expectation attached. 90% of the time the expectation is never met and resentment sets in.
What happens if your wife stops giving you sex, are you going to stop helping out. Or what happens if she wants you to do more, are you going to expect more sex.
This is nasty cycle to get into. Think about it.
Wife asks for more help around the house, hubby wants more sex. She responds maybe you would get more if I wasn't so tired. (Alarms bells)
Husband does extra chores based on the expectation of more sex. If that expectation isn't met the he will stop doing the chores.
Wife inturn resents hubby for not helping and gives him less then before. The cycle continues over and over and moves into there areas of their lives.
Do you say thanks to her for all the jobs she does. Or give her an award #1 wife type of stuff. That shows your appreciation/love because you did it without expection.
Just my two cents. I too do a lot of the house hold chores and applaude you for your efforts.
2006-11-01 14:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by SRC 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Isn't that what a relationship is about though - being equals and helping each other do things like household chores? My husband and I help each other out like that as well. Not only do I feel like we're spending more time together (albeit at the kitchen sink). It does make for a less tired twosome at bedtime. ;-) And who doesn't enjoy reaping the benefits of that?
2006-11-01 13:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by FunBetty! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure does...if your wife isn't so tired, stressed and can relax more it frees up time to be with you..the way you want. It takes a big man to help and show this kind of appreciation for his wife.
I wish all men would...
Good luck now and in the future, but just don't use it for personal gain or "Don't take my kindness as a weakness" rule may apply.
2006-11-01 13:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by Betty Boop 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably, since you are making it a bit easier, then maybe she has a little more energy...j/k, but ya never know. Not only that, but it may turn them on to see that the man takes the time to help them out, and show his appreciation in that way. Glad to see that some men help out, it is hard to be the bookeeper, maid, mother(24/7) and chauffer and try to find the time to be sexy. I need to introduce you to my husband. Kudos to you! :)
2006-11-01 13:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will get more and better cause it is tiring having the perfect home and taking care of kids. So keep it up and by the way your wife is so lucky i wish my husband was like that for me i would have sex up to 2 times a day but i barly have 3 times a week. cause i TIRED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-01 14:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by La Loca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sweetie helps out quite a bit and I see it as a form of affection. Based on my experience, because he helps out it provides more time for the both of us to get romantic, not so much pressure for one person to accomplish all the tasks than need to get done. You're definitely on the right track.
2006-11-01 13:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my husband were to do that........he'd be going to work smiling a lot more often!! You bet it helps take the burden off of us when you help out. Then we are not totally exhausted when we do go to bed and have more energy for a roll in the sheets!!
2006-11-01 13:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by cakelady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wrong. My husband does the exact same things and our love life hasnt increased or decreased. It his his job to help with those things after all the relationship is a 50-50 team work thing as is maintaining the home.
2006-11-01 13:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO YOU ARE NOT WRONG
When a woman isn't so tired she feels more like doing other things, especially with the one she loves.
2006-11-01 13:44:29 · answer #11 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋