MARRIED FOR 5 YEARS, 2 KIDS should i confront him
2006-11-01 05:38:44 · 28 answers · asked by SouthernBelle504 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would definitely confront him, either that or answer the ad yourself and see if he goes to meet you. I'm sorry to hear about that by the way. Good luck on whatever you decide to do.
2006-11-01 05:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't I suspect he's planning it. Before confronting him with this tidbit of info, you should make positively sure it's his. Then - if it is - girl rip into him like there's no tomorrow, get it all out, not in front of the kiddies mind you, and then you'll probably be able to talk with him. Remind him that cheating effects not just the wife, but the children also. He's cheating on all three of you! Men don't stop and think about that they're cheating on the kids, becuz it's their penis they're thinking about, and visa versa for a woman (except we'd be substituting the penis with a vagina of course!). It's really the children who get caught in the middle here. They didn't ask for daddy to break up the home, so why should they be punished for him thinking with the wrong head?! He might want to think about that! Good Luck!
2006-11-01 05:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a pretty safe bet that he is cheating. If he is not cheating, he is looking to do so. Either way, you have a big problem. Send the kids off with a relative, and confront him. You should not carry this burden on your own. Talk to him about this, before it is too late to salvage your marriage.
2006-11-01 05:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the fact that you came across an ad is an alert all together. you have invested 5 yrs and two beautiful children with this man, is a good reason to confront him. But before you confront him you must be positive in your heart that your strong enough to deal with his response to what your bringing to him. but don't be a fool to nobody no matter how long you have been with him or no matter how many children that you have by a man,,, Your a queen and deserve to be treated like one .....remember that!
2006-11-01 05:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by michelle e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a safe assumption that he is cheating it is safe to say that he is unhappy. Defenitily confornt him about the ad. Ask him whats going on dont attack just ask whats going on why he did what he did and try to work things out. Trust is a going to come into play you've just got to work through these things because it is a cry out for help. Just try to get to the root of your problems and work through them together. I hope things work out for the two of you. There are so many things that could be avoided if you were to just communicate.
2006-11-01 05:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't necessarily mean he is cheating - it may mean he is lonely. One thing for sure is he is definitely considering it.
I'm a guy and I did the same thing before my divorce. Yes - confront him. I didn't do anything with anyone else until after we split but now I wish she would have found out and confronted me. Maybe we could have fixed it before it got too bad.
Good luck.
2006-11-01 05:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by ksmpmjoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He certainly has crossed the line hasnt he? Its safe to assume he's exploring right now. I believe you should confront him and have a conversation that may hurt but you need to deal with. Best of luck, tough break.
2006-11-01 08:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is very safe to assume that he wants to cheat, maybe hasn't yet but willing to at the moment. He is brave to advertise himself. Post back to him as someone else then bust him in a couple of weeks.
2006-11-01 05:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is at least "testing the water" to see if he can get involved easily enough with something exciting.
If you care to save your relationship you should talk openly about it, and if I was a woman and had to, I'd destroy the computer before I would let it destroy my relationship.
sometimes men are weak and get carried away wih something stupid, it's just their nature, they need a "slap" and give them a glimmer of hope that you two will work together in the future.
2006-11-01 05:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you should, but he might just say someone else posted it for him as a joke . but if hes posting ads it means he is probably having a hard time finding someone to cheat on you with. but hes looking.
2006-11-01 06:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by karla3211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋