recently i had a dream that i made out with my boyfriend's friend. lately, i have found myself thinking about the whole situation somewhat frequently. i feel terrible, as i would never cheat on my bf. i do love him, even tho we have been having some problems lately. why has this dream and the friend been occupying my mind? i was thinking it was because maybe i haven't been feeling very loved by my bf, but what would cause me to ponder on such thoughts? has this ever happened to anyone else?
2006-11-01 05:33:36 · 6 answers · asked by luvluv 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have dreams like that too. They are often so vivid and real, that when I wake up I feel guilty. I don't know why, and even sometimes I don't know the person in my dream!! I think that not feeling loved definitely contributes. It's like you're making up in a dream world, the things you are lacking in real life. But don't feel down about it. Give your BF love. Give him attention. Get some lovin' from him!! When someone is feeling loved, they are more likely to give the same feelings/actions back. You gotta give to get. And don't worry about the dreams. They're only your imagination. Good Luck!
2006-11-01 05:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One possibility is that whatever feelings you have for your boyfriend's friend -- whether you have ever been aware of them or not -- came through in the dream and were magnified to the point of an actual physical encounter. Another possible interpretation is that, perhaps because of the problems with your boyfriend, you are subconsciously thinking of how you can get him to stay. As irrational as it sounds, making out with his buddy might make your boyfriend want to hold on tighter. There is also the element of fantasy. No matter the mental source of the dream, now that you have it in your mind, there is something appealing to the idea. I think this is something we have all experienced. Unfortunately, there is no one best way to deal with it. I would suggest, though, that if you are serious about your boyfriend, you leave his buddy alone. Leave all those thoughts in your head; they will eventually pass.
2006-11-01 13:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kurt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When married men have affairs with younger women, they believe that they are in love. In truth, what's often the case is that it's the responsibilities with respect to their wife and families that makes it feel less romantic. When such men divorce and live with the women they had affairs with, the responsibilities begin and the romance ends.
2006-11-01 13:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe youre just not in love with your bf anymore.
but youre just attached to him highly...
its a possibility u shud consider...
but...people whove been married for years...are not all in love with each other...they make it through cause they dont want to break the family down. its a natural female response to try to be attached and feel loyal even if youre not in love...
and sometimes...I dunno whats more important...love or the continuation of a solid relationship even tho you go through hard times without actually being in love.
2006-11-01 13:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its prob cuz u know it should never happen thats what makes u want to do it more.
2006-11-01 13:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
me
2006-11-01 13:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋