I need advise on dealing with my abusive parents. The truth is I've
run out of legal options and leaving isn't possible because of bogus
claims my parents make about me.
Even though I'm an adult, it seems to not count in the eyes of the
authorites and everyone else. My options have all dwindled to having to stay with my parents and put up with their stuff.
Mostly my parents verbally abuse me and seem to enjoy it.
They call me names like mentally ill, incompetent and other
names I can't mention. I do suffer from depression and anxiety
that I believe is circumstantial.
The short version of my problem is my parents don't see me as
an adult and interfere in any attempt I make to be an adult. Work,
attend church, and especially take responsibility for my life.
This has gone on for about 20 years now. I'm an adult in my 30's.
Inspite of my claims to the cops and others, I'm being forced to
remain.
I need advise real bad. This thing is on me.
2006-11-01 05:20:07 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is hard to really understand the problem you're in considering the limited information we have. One thing that I would recommend is to document everything. Start a log/journal of your encounters with your parents and daily life. Possibly get a tape recorder and catch them on tape with their verbal abuse. Leave the recorder in a coat or shirt pocket and turn it on when you're around them. Even go as far as setting up a video recorder in your room to monitor your interactions with them and moniter what they do in your room behind your back (being nosey, hiding personal items, taking items, anything). If you happen to record something don't immediately run with the first proof of abuse. Allow the evidence to accumulate. It is easier to disprove one thing rather than 20 different things. Another thought would be to possibly speak to an outsider to the situation. Talk with a doctor, counsler or anyone with creditials who can see this from your angle. Good Luck & God Bless!
2006-11-01 06:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually feel sorry for you. The reason I think that you have all this depression and stuff is because you listen to them & the crap they say to you. That is just wrong. I don't care how old someone is, you don't talk to your kids that way. I suggest that you get out and move into your own place, if you can afford it. I think you will find yourself alot more happier and at ease. I bet that the depression will fade as well. I think that you should try it and see how things turn out. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-01 05:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by CHRISSY K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you get counseling for the depression and anxiety? does it work? i ask this because you need to take care of yourself and be strong. you come across as intelligent enough to research the resources in your community offering help to gain your independence. if there have been significant changes to your ability to care for yourself if it was determined you could not, you may be able to change the order. the problem with your parents has most likely been addressed before. twenty years!!! you are right. you are not in a healthy place. and i understand.
you might try http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/links
i pray you get the help you need
2006-11-01 07:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by hicktowngal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you really should do.. is just move the hell out allready... i think your probably old enough.... but if that really isnt an option than you should get a voice recorder and record them when they are yelling at you or whatever it is they do. My mom is completlyn insane and she used to actually call the cops on me - making up LIES about things that i supposedly did, like that i hit her, even though i really didn't. or that i hit my kid when i NEVER would do such a thing. I got a voice recorder and recorded her yelling at me and lying about things and made her doctor and the police listen to it so i could clear my name and get her some mental help... so if you really want to do somethin about it, maybe you should record them and show it to someone... but they'd probably tell u to just move out...
2006-11-01 05:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by shnookumz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are in your thirties then you can legal get away from them, unless you were found incompetent by the state and your parents have legal rights over all of your decisions. but you don't sound like you are incompetent, you sound intelligent. get out of the house, go to a place where you can stay for a while, get a job, and move to your own place. good luck, and god bless.
2006-11-01 05:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be strong and leave. You are an adult now and you CAN make in on your own. You DO NOT need this kind of abuse in your life. You could try counciling too. Good luck...
2006-11-01 05:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you capiable of taking care of your self?? don't you recieve social sercurity or something?? maybe you can move out and get a room mate. you are an adult and you can move out i don't see why your having to go to court is there more to this story that your not explaining cuz thats the only reason i can see to understand why your parents or doing this to you.
2006-11-01 05:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you disabled or physically unable to move? If not, then get up and leave. Cut all ties.
2006-11-01 05:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋