2006-11-01 05:18:46 · 12 answers · asked by Mother of Tae Kwon Do 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
any advice on getting settled when you start living together.
2006-11-01 05:37:26 · update #1
any advice on when you move in together and how to work things out with any kids he may have?
2006-11-01 05:39:28 · update #2
I ask the question theoretically because I want to maitain a sense privacy. as for details he has 1 son and is 25yrs older than me. I just want to avail of the experience of those who have fallen in love and married someone who is older has a previous marriage with kids that are similar in age to them. I just don't want to be blind on entry.
2006-11-02 00:31:15 · update #3
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2006-11-01 05:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by bagyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very strange, the way you asked the question. It seems to me, it is just an idea that you want to try out theoretically.
Practically if you were in love with a older man, then you would not call him a older man. Then you would know exactly if he has any kid or not. If yes, then how many etc.
whatever the reason you want to marry a older man, bottom line is that, it will work same way as you would marry with any same age man. Love, understanding, forgiving and be there for each other.
2006-11-01 17:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by dotab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to replace their mother but become their freind if there are kids
as for settling down together well that will take time im assuming that you have spent some time staying together at each others place gradually extend the amount of time you spend together sit down and talk about "mutual house rules" the things that you agree on and the things that you dont how you are both going to handle the situation and what your taking responsibility for individualy thebest advise i can give you having done this in my first marriage (i was 20 years younger than my partner and he had three kids ) talk to each other and never pull each other apart infront of the kids or run each other down verbally or undermine each other show a united front and make decisions together but always talk to each other and keep talking
2006-11-01 15:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by hedgewitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you make any marriage work... with compassion, understanding, compromise, mutuality, and communication.... the rest will fall into place if no matter what the age difference, as long as both partners are determined enough.
2006-11-01 13:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my friend has this same dilema, however over time they went ahead with the marriage, his kids and family as well as hers were hell bent on stopping it. But they fought on and showed a united front. Once everyone saw they were strong and truly happy they eventually came around. She did tell her family that she was happy, valued their opinion, however if they didnt like it then she would choose him, but would prefer not to choose as she loved them dearly. Hang on in there as long as hes 200% committed to you. They'll come around eventually. Do whats right for you and good luck.
2006-11-01 13:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep talking to each other during good times and bad involve each other in all aspects of the marriage including children good luck
2006-11-01 16:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by cathied2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you do with any man. Communication-Commitment-Love
2006-11-01 13:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask my wife, we are fine and happy, she is 30 im 40ish
2006-11-01 13:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by Skuya!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely you'd get all that stuff sorted "before " you move in with him .
2006-11-02 01:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is VERY important to men of ALL ages.
2006-11-01 13:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋