I mean it's a bit tricky for women- should I just wait?
2006-11-01 05:16:09 · 39 answers · asked by angivictoria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask him about his plans first.......
2006-11-01 05:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Steer clear of hints they can confuse. If you are ready then talk about it but be prepared for a negative as he is allowed to decline. Give him time and don't give him ultimatums. Sometimes these big questions get rejected outright, if you need to test the water then talk about someone elses marriage but don't forget he probably won't relate it to you so don't be put off if he's negative. Most guys like space so the object is to discuss it without shoving him in a corner. Try saying how you feel and be clear about it and ask him how he feels, don't beat around the bush tell him you think you're ready for marriage and let him take it from there. NO PRESSURE. Once you've said how you feel and he's given you his answer let him breathe with it for a while. Let him bring it back up.
2006-11-04 07:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by fuzzierfelt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and buy the book "He's Just Not That Into You". Hurry. If you have to "hint" at marriage or bring it up, he may not be the right man for you.
I tired everything in the book to get my then-boyfriend to propose. I took him to the jewelry store, where he bought a ring. I set a date, I did EVERYTHING for the wedding. He glided through and showed little interest. I kept making excuses for him and thought it would get better after we were married, after the honeymoon, etc. 6 months into our marriage I realized that he had no desire to be married. That was a very expensive lesson. My boyfriend now openly discusses marriage, our wedding and starting a family. And I have never once needed to "hint" at anything.
When the time is right, it will happen. If he has no interest in getting married, then pack up and find someone who WANTS to marry you.
2006-11-01 05:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by MNS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't hint... You bring it up. Nothing "tricky" about it - if you feel it has been too long, and you're ready for the "next step", you can initiate a conversation. Something like - "so, what would you think about us getting married eventually?" This will open the door to a discussion, and you will be able to get more of an idea of how he actually feels about the subject.
2006-11-01 05:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are and how long you've been dating. If you're under 24, wait. You're still too young to consider marriage. If you're 24 and up and you've been dating longer then 6 months - you should have an engagement ring. I got engaged when I turned 25 - after only 3 months of dating. My husband was 33 at the time. He asked me to go ring shopping after 1 month. He proposed and I said yes. We've now been married 1 year and together 3 years total.
2006-11-01 05:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "hint" about expecting to plan a marriage and spend the rest of your lives together. If you haven't or can't talk openly about your lives and future plans, then you either don't know him well enough to marry or it's way too soon in the relationship.
What's wrong with communicating and finding out what his plans are, and where you stand? Talk about goals and the future and marriage ands kids. If you feel an honest discussion will "pressure" him or "push him away" then you don't have much of a relationship going at the moment.
2006-11-01 05:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hint? Why do you have to hint? Is the relationship that insecure? This is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, and you can't even tell him that? If that is the case, then either you have not known him long enough to chance marriage, or, he is not the right guy for you.
2006-11-01 05:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jack 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend tried that with me, she started oh several years ago. I sat her down a few days later and said here is how it is. I explained to her the reasons why I was actually helping her by us not getting married including, her being able to get grants and low interest loans for college, while if we were married we would make too much to qualify for those things. She understands now and I am ready for the most part to get married just waiting for her to finish her school.
2006-11-01 05:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by cubsfreak2001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think hint is the wrong word. guys are not good with hints, trust me. just ask him if he's ready to take the next step. or leave the computer screen on this page where he will see it! tell him that you want to be more than just his gf. tell him you want to spend the rest of your life with him. if he truly loves you, he will agree. and who knows? he might of already thought this out and is just waiting for the right time to tell you. maybe he even already bought an engagement ring! hope everything works out for you two!
2006-11-01 05:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by Renee Gibson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hint - just talk to him about it - the days of women waiting for men to propose are well over. Make sure he buys the ring though. Hope it works out for you.
2006-11-01 05:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Ally 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him. Unless you're on your first date, that might freak him out! My husband and I were looking at venues for our wedding reception when we had been together for 2 months, so it depends on the couple. He may very well be thinking the same thing as you, but is scared of frightening YOU off! THe key here is communication - without it, you wouldn't have much of a marriage if you did take the plunge...
2006-11-01 05:19:15 · answer #11 · answered by brownbug78 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋