Can everything go back to normal?

Question

I have been friends with my best friend for about 15 years. About a year ago she started dating my brother's best friend (who's over 5 yrs younger) and she eventually stopped talking to me. She was like my sister and I care for her a lot. They split up already and she went to my house and told me the reason why she had stopped talking to me it was because she was told I said many horrible things about her and her boyfriend but I never did. I was very hurt when she pulled away but I felt even worse knowing that she believed all the crap they told her. Don't you think that knowing me for such a long time she would by now know how I am or that she should've asked me ?? Anyways, she's been calling lately but I for some reason don't feel like talking to her .. The sad thing is that I still miss her and I haven't taken any of our pictures of my wall. Can we be friends again like we once were?

Answer 1

Yes... She should have talked to you first... But if you still miss her like that... I say give her another chance. Tell her that next time this happens (if ever) she needs to talk to you about it and be open and thats what a real friendship is all about. Good luck

Answer 2

I think that after some time of healing and talking that things will go back to normal. I think the reason your having such a hard time now is that she betrayed your 15 yr long friendship. She should have been able to come to you, or even told the person that she knew you would never do anything like that to her, but instead of standing up for you and your friendship she stopped talking to you. Even if that was the reason why she did, do you really think that it should matter that they're not together or not. Still doesnt change the fact that she thought you would do something like that to her. are you ever gonna be able to trust her again? What is she gonna do next time she hears a rumor? I think them are some things you need to be asking yourself.

Answer 3

two things: first love is blind. plain and simple. even though you all had a friendship for over 15 yrs sometimes a new love destroy that because it takes the person away from reality and for some stupid reason what the couple states they beleive more than you. it happens, more often than known.
two: if you and only you want the friendship to continue to, it will. but if you are always going to be fearing that the next time she gets involved with someone else she decides to push your friendship to the side and forget you never existed again, only you can make up your mind if this is ok with you or not.
this also recently happen to me. my best friend of 20 yrs has a new gf. somewho he stop talking to me all at once. he did not even tell me when he moved out of the city (i founded out from his sister). this was his choice. now the few times i see him i treat him the same as always and then when i come back to my town i forget about him until the next time.
you can not force someone to be your friend. either they are or they are not. i just learned that this is what he choose to be like, and in my mind he is missing out on things going on in my life and it is his lost.
(i still know everything about him because his sister is also my best friend and she tells me everything)

Answer 4

You wanna talk to her but you wont because you feel betrayed and you were...
People make mistakes and youshould forgive her but before you do she has to express to you thatshe made a mistake thatwill never happen again.
She has to offer her apology first because she has to acknowledge what she did was wrong.
If she attempts to be friends again without doing this you will never view her the same way.
She should have never let a guy in between your 15 yr relationship.
It makes you wonder about how easily people can get inside of her mind.
If she cant apologize sincerely then lose her....it better to lose a 15yr friendship than to stay in a fake friendship for another 15 yrs

Answer 5

You wanna talk to her but you wont because you feel betrayed and you were...
People make mistakes and youshould forgive her but before you do she has to express to you thatshe made a mistake thatwill never happen again.
She has to offer her apology first because she has to acknowledge what she did was wrong.
If she attempts to be friends again without doing this you will never view her the same way.
She should have never let a guy in between your 15 yr relationship.
It makes you wonder about how easily people can get inside of her mind.
If she cant apologize sincerely then lose her....it better to lose a 15yr friendship than to stay in a fake friendship for another 15 yrs

Answer 6

Friendship is like a glass, once broken can be mended but the crack is always there.
though look at it from this angle, she made the move towards you, that means she must have realized that she was mistaken, sometimes we believe the worst of things, however its only after some deep contemplation that sense is drilled into us.
I think you should give her a second chance, but be open, tell her how you felt when she believed all this nonsense. Maybe she should also realize that more than the actual words its the mistrust she had in you that hurt you more.

Answer 7

well she shouldn't have believed all of those things that were said about you in the first place because a true friend would know that they were all lies and she also should not have dumped you as a friend just because... you may be able to get back to the place you were before but its going to take time for you to want her trust again and you just have to stick in there for the long haul and hope it all works out

Answer 8

Sure you can be friends again. It's only human to make a mistake. The good thing about your friend is that she came back and told you what she had heard instead of just staying away from you. Give her a chance..I'm sure things will be fine. God Bless.

Answer 9

yes you can but it is going to take work you need to tell her how you feel because 15 yrs is a long time and she should have come to you with the problem so now you need to talk to fix it dont let 15 yrs go down the drain

Answer 10

You can't go home again my dear. If you want to be friends with her do so but do it with limits...it sounds like you both need to build-up trust for each other again so take it slow. Right now you have to be friends in training so to speak....give it time and it might work out but NEVER expect it to go back to the way it use-to-be. Good luck.