2006-11-01 05:12:53 · 16 answers · asked by Ashley R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Get married first, get a good job, buy a home, then have a baby. You can still do all of that while you are young.
2006-11-01 07:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by KC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend isn't ready, he isn't ready. He may be afraid of the commitment, or he understands that having a child is a huge obligation as far as time and money are concerned, and maybe he still wants to enjoy his youth. More people are having children later in life, because it is hard enough to survive on your own when you are young, let alone with a child. If you are under 25, you don't need to rush, but if you are pushing 35, you should soon because it becomes dangerous to have children after 40.
2006-11-01 05:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Zach S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't stated why you have this desperate need to have a child. You didn't state you age so I'm presuming that you are too young to consider such a responsible task it takes to be a mother.
You must wait until you are older. Becoming a mother takes much of your time and freedom away. Enjoy what life has to offer as a single young woman. It only comes once!
Enjoy your relationship with your boyfriend. Do many things together. If marriage comes later, enjoy that too. Think of children a few years down the line.
2006-11-01 05:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by jam2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well are u both ready in all aspects of the word "ready"??? financially, emotionally, physically and mentally? if yes, then consider ur ages, are u too young or just about mid 30's? all these little things come to play when a child is on the way or is wanted, if everything is right- and i mean everything- then just sit and talk to him openly- don't press the issue but at least bring it up and let it marinate for a while in his head- find out what are his ideas, and opinions, reasons, excuses, etc... then u should be able to make a decision on how to go about the whole baby thing later on. good luck hope my advice helped.
2006-11-01 05:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by POOCHY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't convince someone to have a baby, it has to be a decision of their own. If you convince him now, he still won't be ready, he'll just be appeasing you. And I agree, get married first, have a stable income and home. Before this, children are a lot more of a load and sacrifice. You have plenty of time for children after you and your husband have a steady income and home. Otherwise, do you plan to raise a child living with your parents?
2006-11-01 05:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Having a baby without 2 parents who are willing is a bad idea. Wait until he asks you to marry him first off and then go from there. If he can't commit to you, why on earth would you want to have a child with him? A child is a much bigger commitment.
2006-11-01 05:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Having a baby is a big responsibility. You both have to be ready and willing. Frist get married then worry about having children.
2006-11-01 05:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by super_mario_mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. I know it's a crappy answer, but people are generally dead set about how and when they want to raise children. Are you? Do you want him to convince you it would be better to wait? Probably not. You're probably dead set on having a baby while your young. Sorry this isn't to helpful, but good luck.
2006-11-01 05:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by tiffanyrpunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend isn't ready, then it isn't the right time. You can't force him to have a child that he isn't prepared to support. And if you two aren't ready to commit to getting married first, then you have no business committing to having a child together.
2006-11-01 05:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already said he isnt ready. If hes not ready its not the right time.
2006-11-01 05:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋