I need some advice regarding my move with my husband. Any suggestions?

Question

My husand steadfast7 and I are moving cross country to live and we are excited.

He wants to leave in December no later than 12/15. I dont feel a peace about it because we dont have jobs just yet ( we took a trip to hand out resumes and make contacts). He wants to get out from where we are living.

I believe that if we wait until Jan 2nd we would have more money for the move be with our family for the holidays< and at that time more people would be hiring in 2007. what is your suggestion about this?

What are some of the advantages that I can present to my husband?

Who should he talk to besides me about this?

Answer 1

I am a business corporation human resource(hiring and firing) manager. We do not hire anyone Halloween until January 10th. This is a standard rule for most businesses unless they are hiring temp staff for the holidays. 1. Reason is because people have a tendency of going and getting a job to make money to get them through the Holiday financial crunch and they quit right after Christmas. You would not believe how many people come into our place to inquire about work around Halloween and then how it drops off right after New Years. 2. It creates more people on payroll right before the end of the year and therefore more cost for Tax reports and throws off the audits. If I were you I would stay put where you are enjoy the holidays and look for jobs in the New Year.

Answer 2

The first thing you need to know from him is why he is so anxious to move. What is it about 12/15 that makes it a cut off date?

Then you need to discuss with him the very good reasons that you brought up in your question as to why it is a bad idea to move now. Ask him why it would be just as well to risk losing everything rather than waiting until at least one of you has a job.

Since you already took a trip out there to hand out resumes, have him go ahead of you and stay at the same place and get a job. You can move there as soon as he is employed. There are many ways to work out such a move without so much risk. Try to work with him to find one that works for both of you.

Be careful about the sudden move. Make sure he does not have any reasons that you are unaware of for setting that cut off date.

I have moved many times and never took such a risk. I do not recommend it. The only time I came so close to this risk was when I moved because manager offered me a position and then her manager said she had no right to do so. The company paid a settlement to me and I found another job. But even that was not as risky as moving without any source of income.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 3

First of all, what is the urgency for him to leave by 12/15??? I feel you should wait until after the first of the year, you will be able to file your taxes and have more money from your refund (if you have one coming) and it will be after the holidays as well. I agree with you about spending the holidays with your families, maybe some will have some suggestions for you guys. It really is a bad time of the year to be moving across the country, depending on where you are moving. Sounds like you need to send out some resumes' to prospective employers first as well. Get your feelers out before you leave. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

I would say to wait until January. I have moved cross-country twice now and sometimes it can take longer to find a job than expected. Is there anyway for either of you to transfer w/ either of your companies? Even if it is a job you don't like, it is a paycheck at first while you look for something else.

I don't really know if anymore companies would be hiring in 2007 than they are right now though. Usually that would go by a company's fiscal year and that doesn't often match up with a calendar year.

Answer 5

I think you're right about finding jobs after the new year. Most places don't do a lot of hiring around the holidays. They are hectic enough without trying to train an new employee, plus this may be the last time you'll be able to be home for the holidays too. I would want to spend it with family. You may not be able to afford to come back for a while.
Good Luck to you!

Answer 6

I would definately suggest saving more money and waiting as long as possible to move out there. DO NOT MOVE IF YOU HAVEN'T FOUND A JOB YET THERE! I cannot stress that enough. Otherwise you will run into so many problems, finanacially and with your relationship. My final answer is to wait as long as possible UNLESS you are hired before the 15th (husband's deadline), then maybe you could consider going out there. It seems to me you might as well wait until the holidays are over though, less family bitching to deal with if you are just there for the holidays. Just my .02.............

Answer 7

we are in the opposite situation, I wanna move a few states away asap but my husband says we ned to wait til we have more money. We are both really excited about relocating and it is scary. We have 3 kids under the age of ten and I know this wont be eay for them either, but I think a fresh start will do us all some good. I was thinking about talking to someone who relocates families professionally but I dont klnow how to contact anyone like that. I am researching it now. Good luck!

Answer 8

Yes December is a bad month to start ;looking for a job for real. Novembe it is too close to the holidays and most compnies are hiring but its temp work so your walking into a mess there also. Wait til after the holidays then you can start out on the right footing and it should work its self out.

Answer 9

Your idea sounds sensible, but... if you moved in December, you'd have that holiday down-time when nothing much is happening to get yourselves situated and hit the ground running after the new year. If you didn't move out until Jan, you'll burn a couple of weeks just getting set-up. I think I'd move now and be ready to hit the job market ASAP.

Answer 10

Companies usually slow down their hiring during the months of December, tax reasons, etc. I agree with you, spend the holidays with family and make your move in January. Good luck with your new venture.