I keep going out with my close female friend, we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We also take roadtrips together to the coast and to the country for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us.This happens at least every 2 weeks, if not on a weekly basis. We’re attracted to each other, flirt with each other, we’re in touch practically everyday, can only open up too me,feels very comfortable with me, enjoys spending time with me,we trust each other etc
She doesn’t like it when I mention other girls that I’m interested in or ask her for advice concerning them.She always tells me that she never pulled when she went out,she’s not interested in anyone, don’t fancy anyone,etc
We kissed once(very passionate,all over each other)a few months back and she said we should remain friends.She said that I don’t do it for her(also kiss), but still finds me attractive and the thought of us being intimate doesn’t repulse her. So how can’t I do it for her?
2006-11-01 05:06:41 · 13 answers · asked by Machine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Said we have a platonic bond between us. She DON’T like talking about ‘us’ taking it further and changes the subject when I raise the topic or goes quiet. She’s never had a relationship.
When she opened up to me, she said: 1)She cares about me a lot,2)thinks about me a lot,3)can only open up fully to me (no one else), also told me many personal stuff from her past 4)really enjoys spending time with me (one on one),5)she only wants to txt me at certain times,i.e after a long day/travelling home,very personalized txt e.g. says how she’s feeling. When I told her I felt the same (as above), she said she don't see me in that way and nothing more would happen! When I asked why we’re not together she could not say why. She also apologised for a fling she had with a lad bck home and she didn’t mean to hurt me.
2006-11-01 05:07:01 · update #1
She now thinks that I started dating a girl and she practicaly ignored me, but has finally got back in touch after I txt her how much I miss her,thinking of her and we’ll always remain in touch-was this jealousy or just a coincidence? My behaviour has not changed towards her at all and I'm not actually dating anyone. Also when I joked she had a new boyfriend she shouted down the phone "what f**king boyfriend!there's no one, I wish I had one,f**king hell". Why'd she get so angry?
I can accept friendship, but why can’t I mention other girls to her seeing we’re only friends?Why does she get jealous? Does she have feelings for me or is she a c**k tease? Using me? Surely everything is there,no? Says she wants a boyfriend,it feels like I’m him at certain times!
Help,what she see this as?-what’s her game?
She's not a psyco, cares about others and has been numerous times that she's too kind/nice to others
2006-11-01 05:07:19 · update #2
I think she is so fond of your friendship, she is scared to hell, if it becomes something more, and it does not work out, she will lose you forever. I think she might even love you, she is too scared to risk a sexual relationship with you, this way, she is confident you will always be around. I think she needs you, she is just too scared to risk losing you, hence, the jealousy, when she thought you had another gf, she would not be jealous, she would be thrilled for you, if she did not love you herself. You two sound like you would be a perfect couple, i really hope you get together, good luck!!! This is my honest opinion, as a woman.
2006-11-01 05:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not exactly like this girl, but I have acted the same way as this girl in the past. I never had a father figure in my life, so when it got time for me to date, I was really afraid that I would be taken advantage of. It sounds like she really likes you but has a fear of how things would go. Maybe she has had a past relationship that she hasn't healed and moved on from. Maybe the thing is that you actually DO do it for her, but she is afraid that she doesn't do it for YOU, and she lets this fear get in the way of you guys having a serious relationship. The best advice that I can give you is to always be truthful with her, and maybe she will start to open up once she sees that you won't hurt her and that you are a really good guy. Some women get hurt and carry a lot of emotional baggage (I was one of these women). Emotional baggage gets in the way of good relationships.
2006-11-01 05:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by loveangel22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she feels the same as you. But she's petrified. There's a fine line between friendship and a relationship, and by taking it further, she'd putting the closest friendship she has at risk. She'd rather keep it as it is than risk losing it all together if the relationship falls apart. Its a difficult situation to be in, and anyone who's made that choice and had it blow up in their face knows its rarely worth it. But for others, it works out well. Maybe you should try asking her if this is what she's worried about.... you might be surprised at her response.
2006-11-01 05:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has some baggage, and she is not dealing with it, or does not know how to deal with it. It may be good advice for your to tell her she, should speak to a counselor. so she could free her mind. I do think she really likes you, but because of past experiences, does not know how to deal, with a relationship, or is afraid to. Ask her, am I wasting my time on you, because I care for for you, and I want to be more then just friends? You seem like a wonderful guy, so I hope everything works out for you!
2006-11-01 05:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats right... calm down.. let her take her time.. shes probably very sensitive and will look for a soulmate in you.. like you said she is a kind and nice girl, then she probably knows already how you feel for her, so just keep yourself glued to her if u really have feelings for her coz shes seems to be very careful and doesnt want to get hurt. maybe she just wont express as yet coz if 2mrw u ditch her she'll be broke. her attitude towards u proves that she didnt have a relationship in the past.
2006-11-01 05:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by gunsnrockers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow dude that's seriously confusing what ever happend to u want to be my gf and then sure? lol ok seriously it sounds like she cares for u but is scared of loosing u but u have to tell her u can't be her play thing I know it will be hard but u can't put ur self through that and if she genuinly cares she'll tell u. I'm not exactly like her but that what it sounds liek. This is just my oppinion as a teen girl, Good luck to u guys
2006-11-01 05:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by outlandishb13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship has come about recently, say one year or so, let her be comfortable with her ways for a little while more. Jealousy indicates that she has some softer feelings for u. Be patient.
2006-11-01 05:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whooa i think u really love this girl. What i think is :
--may be the girl is scared of heart break since she'd never been in any relationship.
--Both of u cared about each other and u both know about it.
solution
--dont mention about any girl when u're with her.
--show her that u love her more than she does.
--Treat her well.
--call her everyday.
--Write her poems
--Tell her sweet stuff.
--compliment her on whatever she does.
Well with this, i'm sure she'll feel more relaxed and who knows she might be ur baby some day.
2006-11-01 05:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by teemah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes been really hurt in the past(physical, emotional, or even sexual abuse) and she doesnt know how to deal with it. its a hard one cause really all you can do is be there for her and continue letting her know that you are a true man with true and good intentions. if you really love her alot be there, but if you cant handle how difficult this will be then you may want to get out of it now.
2006-11-01 05:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES it is a relationship.
You should know your liking for this GIRL. Make up your mind. BE clear. talk to her family, bring her to your family. DECIDE
Propose if you both wish to get married. ALL THE BEST of LUCK
2006-11-01 05:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by s a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋