Why do men have to be so shallow?

Question

I can't get why married men (or men that have gf) still look at other girls....and look at porns...Most of them answer " Cause we're just a guy"

Is it really just a guy thing or it's just they CAN'T CONTROL THEMSELVES?

Are there any Man that doesn't do this?....be honest...lol

Answer 1

Well, looking at girls and looking at porn are two different things. Porn is degrading to women and they don't have to look/buy it. However, forget about changing men as far as looking at other women. They do it till they die! As long as they're not making luid comments, learn to live with it. Or go along with it..."hey, did you see that beautiful girl over there!!!" That will make 'um wonder! It doesn't matter is they have one foot on a banana peel and one in the grave, they naturally love to look at women. Godloveya.

Answer 2

C'mon lady...of course they are going to look. The difference is the ones who can not control themselves.

Men are horny to begin with...like women. Now you toss them into a society that bombards them with sex from everything to their video games, comic books and even cartoons...then you plug them into a free-information society where any kind of deviance can be had at few mouse-clicks....what do you think you're going to get?

It isn't an excuse. It just is. So are guys going to look. Yes, it is normal...women are attractive and should be appreciated..

Now, the problem is the the industry that is teaching our teenage boys to look at the feminine as a product to be consumed rather than love...

so...must know when you man has crossed the line. Don't sweat him if he buys a nudy or a porn or looks at pretty women...it's perfectly normal...
if it becomes something more...he begins to pay for it on line, begins to ignore you, has people e-mailing him, then I would drop his ***..,
Finally, some guys will try to say they don't look...they are liars. they may not buy the porn or look at the mags...but when they see an attractive woman on the street...they are looking...they may feel guilty about it, but they are looking.

don't let it make you self-concious....you like it when an attractive man comes by and may give you a look...at least you should. guys are just a little forward.

Answer 3

I don't do this, I have a fianc'e, Porn can be addicting but I don't think that's an excuse, looking at other women seems to normal in life and so other people pick up on that. Most people can't control themselves with porn because of there addiction, but looking at women..they are just "normal" guys, not every guy is the same but most are. They can stop it but don't see anything wrong with it because no one lets them know, or no one has let them know in the past. Women can do the same but as it isn't really normal in society not as many do it. Weak minded people follow what other people do, strong minded set there own path out. I've been brought up with my mum telling me all men are the same, and being male I rebeled against that and try to be different from every other male. I am in a relationship where I see people male and female as just people, not objects, male and female are the same, everyone but my fiance. Sometimes I even feel like she is the only good looking person in the world, because I see others as ugly or normal, nothing personal, just love.

Answer 4

...Cause men are pigs! ...Right? Nah, just kd... Bad marriage, loneliness, his wife/gf does not please him visually, and also his own fault. Sometimes it is a habitual thing (even though it's a bad one), because our sexual system if an instant on/off system (this is the main reason). It's a guy's fantasy to be loved by many women unless if one woman can fulfill the intense desire for love that he needs, though he may not show or evem pretend like he doesn't need love. Not just a woman who is there, but a woman who is there and truly loves him. This gives him confidence. If you let a guy do a test, and let him ask girls out, he'll get rejected most of the time. This destroys his confidence, and the woman who gives him confidence is the one he stays with. So it is controllable, if given the right circumstance, and the right guy. Guys who are Christian, or is committed to someone or something don't do this.

Answer 5

Yup, I'm here and I don't need those other items either. And to be honest looking at other women is just something that happens, I don't drool when I see them. Women who hang where I go, like the gym or the park, well they don't wear the most concealing clothing, so no one can blame me for taking a look at someone who is in shape and looks very nice. It does not mean that I am going to jeopardize my relationship just for a quicky.

Answer 6

Men who chose to actively look at the live girls or otherwise are very immature and shallow. And I am a guy who doesn't so I think that allows me some room to judge. B-E-C-A-U-S-E:

Not all men (married or otherwise) look, and especially not at porn.

"Just a guy" is an excuse for not-controlling ones own urges, which are biologically programmed in in terms of mate finding, but really don't have to go outside the marriage relationship to stay satisfied.

Answer 7

I look at other women constantly even when my wife is around. When there's a particularly good looking one she'll point her out to me. I guess it's a matter of being secure in yourself and the relationship to accept that and not let it bother you. It's normal to look at an attractive woman. The same is true for women. My my looks and i'll point out good looking men to her.

We've been together 15 years never cheated and never will. we love, respect and each other enough that we let the other be who they are.

Answer 8

The first and biggest problem is that the whole world says "its a guy thing". What in the hell is that supposed to mean anyway ?? To me that's just an umbrella for all of mans bad behavior. Women dont help the situation any. How many do you see that say, well he's a guy. We will only get what we expect from them and by saying well he's just a guy leaves room for lots of bs.

Answer 9

Impossible! ALL guys loves to look at girls, be it they're married, attached or unattached. They used excuses like: " Coz I'm a guy", "Gals happen to walk pass, how can I know see?". All these are lame excuses used for covering themselves. Men are born to be lustful and horny. This is their nature. My bf also everytime sees girls and that makes my blood boils for the whole day. Guys are really shallow animals and always see girls' boobs and butts. That's all they can think of - SEX!

Answer 10

I am sure that there are some that don't do this...but a majority do. It is not a I want to leave my wife and go have sex with her thing. It is harmless. Most guys just look, and leave it at that. Why we do this, I am not sure. I think it is just breed into our DNA.