who'd been made pregnant by her rapist or molester to go through 9 months of pregnancy (I'm pregnant at the moment and its hell with severe sickness and exhaustion) and 48 hours of agonising labour to give birth to her rapists baby and then hand it over to strangers like an unwanted Christmas gift?
Are you serious? I'm sorry but in that situation the raped child's feelings and welfare would come FIRST for me! What makes one child more important that the other?
The funny thing is a lot of you are men who know nothing about how hard it is to carry or deliver a baby!
2006-11-01 04:54:59 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Beachcrazy -what about the "horrible thing" of having to go through pregnancy and labour with a rapists' baby? I think that would kill the poor kid. It would kill me and I'm 34!! Why should she be made to suffer further? Rape is enough.
Its sad about the feotus but then the man should never have raped her.
2006-11-01 05:00:59 · update #1
Mommy of 4 - please get a life yourself or do some research or whatever you want and and stop trying to censor other people's freedom of speech. I'm not in the slightest bit bothered by your childish insults.
2006-11-01 05:09:20 · update #2
I am pro choice...not to mean that I always agree with abortion, but I definately think that people should have the choice what to do...rather than being forced to do something they don't want to do..or being left with no options at all.
However, if you're trying to change people's minds...don't waste your time...they have the right to their own opinion too. And I definately think you've gone about this the wrong way. Putting people down and criticizing them is no way to make a point to them.
J
2006-11-01 05:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly, at 13 this girl is still a child. Secondly this poor child was raped. Thirdly, she ended up pregnant with her abusers baby. Dont you all think the poor kids gone through enough??,without having to give birth and then make the choice as to whether to keep and care for the baby or hand it over to the authorities. Having a baby at any age is something that should never be taken lightly, this poor kid needs all the support she can get, she does not need to be forced into another decision out of her control.
2006-11-01 06:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Chicky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WOW, .A 13 yr old is just a child herself, there is no decision for her--she should be worried about what color notebook she should use for math class-not wether or not she should give birth to a baby--no matter what decision she makes --or had made for her--she has to live with that the rest of her life.I am pregnant myself right now but giving birth is the easy part no matter how hard it may be--its the rest of their lives that would be the hardest-- that question is really hard alot of people have alot of views but it should be a personal choice of the girl and her family(maybe) and she should not be judged by anyone else. A decision that personal should be nobodies business but that of the girl and maybe her family,with her being so young. Unless you have gone thru the experience yourself you have no idea what the child is going thru. She is a victim of a horrible crime and has to live with that the rest of her life and again should not be judged poorly if she has an abortion.
2006-11-01 05:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by AMY R 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say that i would find any solution to this question to have flaws on both accounts! It is true it would be dreadful for a 13 yr old to be raped and have to have the baby, however now we have choices and i believe if she found out in good time that she was pregnant an abortion would be perfectly acceptable and understandable! I can't understand what planet these people are on that say she should keep it. It would be her business and hers alone! In hospitals do they not put the mothers life as prority over the unborn child! Perhaps that is where the answer is! Men couldn't even cope with a period let alone a pregnancy!
2006-11-01 05:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Agreed the man should never have raped her...but what does that REALLY have to do with her delivering a baby? I am pro-choice but you have to be smart about the remarks you make...what 13 year old WOULDN'T say they were raped if they were pregnant? If that was the ONLY way to have an abortion then how many "rapes" would there be. Granted, a lot of women don't come forward when they are raped and a women (or girl in this case) shouldn't get blasted for claiming rape if she was raped...but if the only way to have a legal abortion was if you were raped or molested...how many boyfriends would be jailed because teenagers were too scared/immature to tell their parents that they had sex? If a woman is raped and goes to the hospital and get the proper tests taken, she is almost automatically given the morning after pill immediatly. If she DOESN'T go to the hospital and press charges and leaves the rapist out there...who is the most irresponsible? I am 7 months pregnant and carrying a child hasn't been "easy" but all emotions aside, there is no reason why a raped person couldn't carry a child to term like anyone other woman.
2006-11-01 05:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Erika H 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋
To all the people who say women use abortions as birth control... You are talking S***
I've had an abortion and it was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. It haunts me every day. an abortion is by far harder than having to deliver a child but for some its the only option.
Stop being so damn narrow minded and thinking that women get pregnant on purpose every single time.
Not all of us are going about sleeping with various people without contraception, occasionally accidents or in this case traumas DO happen!!!
A 13year old CHILD would have absolutely no life what so ever, the chances are she would need alot of help to over come her ordeal anyway without having a baby reminding her of the rape every single day!!
2006-11-01 07:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Abortion is a terrible thing, but I thing something that's far more terrible is bringing a child into the world where the mother can't or is unable to love and care for it properly. Any woman who has an abortion has given it a lot of thought, and probably lost a lot of sleep over the decision. They decide on an abortion because they can see no other alternative. They should be encouraged to consider alternatives, but if they decide on an abortion, their decision should be respected.
2006-11-04 23:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm pro-life not an anti abortionist. There is a difference. That life I'm pro, might be the life of the mother rather than that of the fetus.
Honestly, do you think a question like this is going to change anyone's mind? You believe what you believe and other have their beliefs and a question like this isn't going to change that.
Now, my opinion...if a 13 year old was raped and became pregnant, then I would find it perfectly reasonable to have an abortion, if she was evaluated by a psychologist first, to determine what would be less traumatic for her. Depending on how she was raised and what she believes about abortion, having an abortion might be more traumatic for her than giving birth and giving a baby to someone who is desperate for a child. I think in a situation like that, the decision should rest in the hands of the drs that treat her, her parents and herself, rather than the lawmakers.
Comparing a situation like this to one where a woman willingly had unprotected sex, became pregnant and decided to have an abortion is, well...there is no comparison.
2006-11-01 05:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
First of all the little girl whose body was invaded would be the most important person in all of this, she is the only one that can truly say wheather or not she wants to carry this baby or have an abortion. She is the one that have to live with the decision, it was her body that someone violated,so it her decision that would count and only hers. I feel so bad for her that this monster went after her as if she was a piece of meat that he could do what ever he wanted to with. She is 13 and most likely scared,she needs people that are going to make her know that what ever decision she makes will be ok and that she is not being judged for it. As a woman no one has the right to violate my body and no one has the right to condemn me for my decision about what happens to it.
2006-11-01 05:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by BASHFUL 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
personally i think it is personal choice. no one is right or wrong. if the rape victim wants to keep the child they should be allowed to if they do not wish to go through that for emotional and such problems then she should not have to. we should stay out of other people's lives and let them do with it what they want. for example if someone is 13 and their family kicks them out as they are pregnant so they move in with their boy friend's family who can not really afford to support the baby but she has it anyway because people force her to have the child, the child grows up with little food and accessories and spends their life being bullied for their clothes and the fact they are a "chav" and their health is never brilliant because of their economic difficulities. obviously that is a life wasted because that child may never truly be happy therefore maybe an abortion was right. but it is up to that 13yr old girl, not you or me or anyone else so basically just have your views but dont try to force them on everyone else because everyone is different.
2006-11-01 07:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋