2006-11-01 04:51:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they hate me!
2006-11-01 04:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
its the biggest draw back in getting married. the in-laws or as most people i know call them the out-laws are the only thing that is the same in 99% of marriages. thay are not likes and it is mostly the mother in laws that are the problem. my advice is dont let it get to you as it makes them worse and get your own back whenever possible.
2006-11-01 08:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by vexon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm always having problems with every single one of them. And by the way these people can't be concidered "in" laws there is nothing "in" about then I don't want them "in" my house all the time or "in" my buisness or "in" my and my husbands desicion of when to have children or anything that makes them the OUTLAWS that they really are.
2006-11-01 05:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father-in-law died just as we got engaged which is very sad as he was a poppet. His wife on the other hand was a selfish, conceited social climber who considered herself above her own sisters. She started playing up before the wedding and it got worse afterwards. She made a scene if my husband held my hand. When I became pregnant she told me in so many words that she wished me dead, and the baby too, so that she could get her son back. At the baby's christening she pretended to faint so that the focus turned on her. She ignored us for six months after the birth. When she came to stay with us she would criticise everything: the wallpaper, the lamps, the carpet. My cooking was never right, or not as good as hers. She would make a great show of grabbing the hoover and running it round because her "standards were better" than mine. My ironing was "inadequate", my skirts were"too short", my shoes" too cheap". I knitted garments for our baby and made her dresses myself and that was"common". I was a" bad wife" because I did not polish my husband's shoes or cleaned his car for him. If I wore some jewelry, she wanted to know who bought it for me and was livid if my husband bought me a present. She openly accused me of "sponging" on her son even though I had a job that brought in as much as my husband's. If she phoned and I answered, she would put the phone down or say "I want to speak to my son. Fetch him!" as if I were a servant.
However I discovered that when she talked to third parties, my husband had married "a pearl, so intelligent, so classy, so industrious, so talented, with such a good job" that I realised it was all about her, her image and her need to be admired.
At our son's wedding she sat with our two daughters and, slightly tiddly, she said to them "I hope your mother will be a better mum- in-law than I have been to her". My daughters, who had always noticed how badly she treated me, asked her "Why were you so beastly to her?" and she answered "Because I was jealous".
This in a nutshell, summed up our relationship. I feared and dreaded her for years and she envied me. Sad!
I am glad to say that I get on with my daughter-in-law like a house on fire. I consult her and can often talk to her as if she were my own daughter. I can honestly say that we are really good friends .I could not have done better if I had chosen her myself and the feeling is mutual.
2006-11-01 06:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by WISE OWL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always had problems with in laws . My mother in law always tells me my house is not clean enough for her . Well you know what I tell her not to come to my house then since it is not clean enough for her . my husband tells her to go home and stop being a problem when there is not one. You have to make sure your husband or wife stands beside you when you have aproblem with his /her parents. good luck and god bless.
2006-11-01 05:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to with my ex mother in law until I told her she either sorted herself out or she would be asked to stay away from myself and my kids ... my mum in law now is lovely and I so wish we got to see her more, she's one in a million.
2006-11-01 04:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes that is the story of my life i know my mother in law cannot stand me she is always wanting to exclude me in everything and just have my husband and daughter around including trying to go out of town for the holidays or go on a cruise in the summer but my husband said no because i was not going
2006-11-01 04:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anita 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my mother-in-law to be is a total *** but hey its not her im with thank god. i feel sorry for people like us that get constant bother from in laws especially the ones who try and coz trouble all the time like mine.
2006-11-01 04:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plumb121 stop giving me ideas!! I HATE my in-laws! They also exclude me from the family.
2006-11-01 04:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by DippyGirl78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not now as i have accepted that i will never be good enough for her son but hey what the heck we get on and i know where I stand I will always be there for her and she knows that and I would never use the kids against her think we have drawn a line and that is it we are comfortable with it
2006-11-01 05:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no cause we are too far away and not having to understand one another mother tongue. but my sister in law is indeed having huge problems with my mom.......
2006-11-01 12:04:02 · answer #11 · answered by - 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋