you and your boyfriend have been together for less than a month and he has already been talking about how you are the one he wants to be with forever and he wants you to have his kids?
I am only 15 and he is 16 and we both have been having really hard times with relationships and we finally got together after like 3 months of being with someone else. I think I want to be with him forever but then again I am only 15 and I barly know what I want in the world.
We have already talked about this and decided that if we do decide to get married or engaged that it won't be int il he is 18 and we won't get married until I am 21. that is only if something doesn't happen to quicken everything.
I am just scared and confused. HELP!!!!
2006-11-01 04:50:26 · 16 answers · asked by [Matt] is my love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all you are too young to be discussing such things, It is easy to fall for this trap, but difficult to get out of. People like me, inspite of being 24 and having been in the same relationship for five years still have doubts. You have barely been in this relationship for a month, you can't be sure, trust me.
And even if he is saying these things it might very well be a lie. Be very very careful.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-01 04:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by Gauri K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you are mature enough to admit that you barely know what you want in the world. But don't even think about marriage right now. You need to be focusing on your studies and having fun with your friends. Let me tell you this. If you get married now your whole world will change. You will have to face the responsibility of paying your bills and making sure you have food and utilities to live and you will have to answer to this guy and he will have to answer to you for the rest of your lives (that is what marriage is suppose to be about-til death do us part). You wont be able to watch mtv and go to the malls and shop all the time or worry about what trendy little outfit you are gonna wear tomorrow because you are going to be to busy worrying about what bill is do and whether you are going to make it to work on time and all the grown up things pepole worry about. And if you are even thinking about having a baby (this thing about something happening to quicken everything)...DON'T!!!! No 15 year old or 16 year old is ready for that!!! Just have fun right now.
2006-11-01 13:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if we all married the one we were with when we were 15--- we'd be screwed! By all means, have fun with the guy, but why be so serious? Just have fun and see what happens! I'm 29 and I still have that outlook! I almost did what you did, and almost felt like bringing a baby into the pic and my GOD am I glad I didn't go that route! You are so young and have ALOT ahead of you! You two have alot of stuff to learn and you shouldn't try locking eachother down "for life" just yet.... keep it light! Have a good time and by all means, BE SAFE!!!! Some guys are really needy, girl-- be careful.
2006-11-01 13:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by liverlips86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last statement says it all. It clearly doesn't feel right to you. I'm 23 and the thought of getting to married now - scares me!!
You have made a mature decision to wait until 21 to get married & don't need to make any commitments now, you're only 15. If he respects your decision then he will not pressurize you.
Marriage will be so much stronger if people would find out who they are & want they want from life beforehand, you can bring so much more to a relationship if you're a "whole" person. good luck
2006-11-01 12:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im kinda in the same situation but if you fell uncomfertable try and tell him with out hurting his feelings that you need time to think. I asked my mom yesterday "What would you tell me if I got married at 21" She said "Nothing really just really wouldnt have a life" Think about it at 21 what job can you two really get that will pay for the child,food,bills,clothes,diapers ect. Then you would have to find a baby sitter which is not always easy wehn you two wana go have fun????......
2006-11-01 12:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by I_Taste_Like_Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur way too young hunny, u have ur whole life ahead of you..
concentrate on setting a career path for urself right now. u have so much time to think about guys and marriage. ur gonna be meeting and dating sooo many guys as u get older and as u get older start getting wiser and know more about what u want.
just say no, and just enjoy ur young days while u can, b/c believe me it flys by sooo quick.. i wish i was young again and dating, but only with the mindset I have now, b/c i'm wiser.
Good luck
2006-11-01 13:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sicilian Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day you will be telling your daughter this story when she comes home and tells you she is in love at 15.need to focus on the big picture making a life for yourself. being smart and self sufficient not to have to count on anyone. stay in school keep your legs closed and enjoy being a kid. these are the best times in your life. dont sell yourself short with a boyfriend talking about marriage when your 21. its ridiculous
2006-11-01 13:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's waaay to early to be talking "forever" at your age. Take it a day at a time, and have fun. If he still wants to talk the "forever" talk, tell him that if you guys are still together in five years THEN you can start talking about it.
2006-11-01 13:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that you wait untill you finish school it's not a wise choice to do that im a 19 yr old girl im married and i have a lil 1 yr old girl i wish i would of waited no matter how much i love my husband.
2006-11-01 13:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by tiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can hope for it and even talk about it. this doesnt mean its going to happen. my and my boyfriend had a wonderful 11 month relationship before he broke up with me. we talked about stuff like that. we still do. but no one knows for sure what is going to happen later. just know if it is meant to be. it will find its way.
2006-11-01 12:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by bambi..♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋