Do you think it would have been correct for me to hide my correct age and get married ? Parents brought a proposal but without relating the right age of mine. After talking to him, we both liked each other but i sensed that he does not know that he is two years younger to me. Indirectly I took his opinion about marrying an older girl. He did not agreed, so I thought to reveal the truth, I did, n everything was over. Do you think, It would have been right on my part to hide my age from him n should have married? If I cud have hidden, he wud have married coz we liked each other.I dont regret my action but at times the question comes, wud it have been right to marry him by keeping him in darkness. Tell me, if i have committed a mistake by telling the truth?
2006-11-01 04:49:31 · 10 answers · asked by Leena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seems to me that you may be in a very traditional ethnic group... maybe your parents will help you in this case...
Anyways, I think you should try to keep in touch with him, if you both like each other it will be easy, and then who knows, maybe you will end up getting married.
2 years are not a big deal, I know a couple with 10 years difference (older woman) and the are very happy together.
2006-11-01 04:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did what was right, because a foundation based on a lie is a foundation that will quickly crumble. And, I feel sorry for you that you live somewhere that parents decide who you should marry. Love is a grand thing and comes about naturally, not because someone arranged a marriage for you. Good luck in finding the love of your life because he is out there and your age won't mean a thing to him once you find him!
2006-11-01 12:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that lying about age is that tedious but we are dealing with me!!!!
I have committed a mistake by telling the truth. My husband was incarcerated while i was 8 months pregnant. We already had two children. Anyway, almost a year went by and I got drunk and slept with someone. I know that being drunk isn't an excuse so I did not use it. I told my husband about the mistake. The man who was my soul mate turned to hate me in an instant. I have subdued years of abusive (in every way imaginable).
The truth doesn't always "set you free".
2006-11-01 12:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Don't claim to know it all!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated both older and younger women, and their value and self-worth based on their age difference to me hasn't had even 10 cents worth of meaning relative to how we got along in a dating relationship. So I think that you did the right thing, think about it:
If he was the kind of man that would leave you behind/let you go simply because the date on your birth certificate comes before the date on his, is he the kind of man you would want to be with?
What would have happened if you were married and then he found out? If it really were that big an issue he would feel trapped, and even if he stayed his trust in you would go down.
There is a great line in the movie "Runaway Bride" that starts with "You want a man who _______________". I am not going to finish the line for you (rent the movie if you haven't already seen it) because I want you to finish the line.
It should be something that means "he will love and cherish me for who I am, who wants to be with me and no other for the rest of my life" but is hopefully about ten times more romantic than I am expressing here.
2006-11-01 12:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by HeartSpeaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the foundation of marriage based on an arrangement where the information is misgiven, i wouldn't call that a lie... because it wasn't told with the intent of deception. and you corrected the information and he apparently wasn't having any of it which is why it ended... but you did the right thing telling him your age. i don't know what problems he has with marrying an older girl, but it's better that you begin a marriage, arranged or not, with truth and honesty and good communication. those are fantastic foundations and you seem to be on the right track with them. when the right suitor comes along, you'll be ready for it.
2006-11-01 13:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did not make a mistake. Two years is a VERY insignificant difference; if he used it as an excuse to end a potential relationship, it was for the better. I don't know about you, but I would never want to be with a person who made such poor judgements. IMO, you will be much better off finding a person who simply accepts you as you are, age and all.
2006-11-01 12:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that marriage should be based on truth and honesty. If this guy dumped you because you are two years older than him then you are way better off without him. You did the right thing. You deserve better than that. He is a jerk.
2006-11-01 12:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it was really meant to be it wouldn't have mattered. and lies will always come out no matter what. don't ever second guess your decision. what you did was correct. the right one will come along when it is the right time.
2006-11-01 13:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by bimbojackson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did the right thing. No relationship can stand on deciet.If you can not trust there is no basis for a relationship.
2006-11-01 12:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! Stupid question.
2006-11-01 12:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋