This is a re: to the ? on did he cheat
We have 3 kids together and this happened 3 yrs ago but i cant get over it. sometime when i think of it i want to kill him. And when i ask him things about what went down he says what does it matter. He wont let me work so if he leaves or i get rid of him i wont have no way of supporting our kids. does he have me where he wants me?In a place were i have to have him or nothing at all?
2006-11-01 04:36:15 · 10 answers · asked by nowandthenandonlyme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is controlling you and you need to get away from him. The fact that he will not let you work is a problem immediately.
The second issue is not that you cannot get over the cheating, but that you took him back. Once a person cheats, it is highly likely that they will cheat again. Do not worry so much about what happened in detail three years ago, but what is happening now. When he says it does not matter, he may be hiding the fact that he is repeating the events.
If you believe that you cannot trust him, as it sounds you do, move in with a relative or even a women's shelter. Get a job and take care of yourself. Do not allow any man to control you. You are your own person!!
Take care,
Troy
2006-11-01 04:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are a bit depressed.
I think you need to talk with someone over this, who can offer valid opions and advise. DEF. a professional.
I am a mother of three, and I am stuck at home for the most part as well. But I know my options are unlimited as are yours. Just because you have children does not mean you are not an individual who cannot get out there and make it on your own.
So what if your income is no where near his, who says you wont qaulify for assistance, and child support, and get a decent job?
I would talk with him, not about the cheating bbut about different options to make you feel more in control of your life.
2006-11-01 04:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It makes your self worth plummet so low, that you do not know if it is going to ever come again. My ex-husband cheated on me a couple of instances and eventually I had had adequate and divorced him. I met my moment husband a million yr later. I've been with him for sixteen years and I simply began to believe him approximately two years in the past. He is aware of that if he cheats simply as soon as, he is out. I will certainly not permit any person do this to me once more. My ex husband, to these days, has had three failed marriages and he nonetheless cheats. Yes, this is a slap within the face. I would not desire it on any person. I relied on my new husband to an volume, however it was once continuously at the back of my brain that it might occur at any time. I do not consider that method anymore.
2016-09-01 05:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "He won't let me work"? If you want to work, you should. It isn't up to him. Yes, I would say he has you just where he wants you, broke, barefoot and either pregnant or with a baby on your hip! Women will always feel more secure if they are ABLE to support themselves. That doesn't mean that they will leave, it just lets everyone know they are not trapped. Good luck to you.
2006-11-01 04:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, never accept that you have to keep him no matter what. There are places that can help you and your children thru a relationship split. Make sure you and your children have a place to live and then start getting your life back in order, find a job, etc............
2006-11-01 04:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you accept that he wont let you work? He has no right to tell you what you can or cannot do! Stand up for yourself and work if you want to and divorce him if that is what you want to do. Good luck!
2006-11-01 04:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Eileen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wont LET you work? hunny this guy is controling you so he can do what he wants. you need to do what YOU want. if you want a job, go get one. then you can leave him if you want. sounds like if he's avioding the question on cheating, then he cheated (i know that one from experience)
2006-11-01 04:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF YOU HAVE AN EDUCATION I AM SURE YOU CAN FIND A JOB AND A WAY OF SUPPORTING YOU'RE FAMILY. YOU CAN LEAVE HIM AND THE ONLY THING YOU ARE DOING IS MAKING EXCUSES. (JUST LIKE ALL WOMEN DO) IF YOU DO LEAVE HIM...YOU HAVE TO HAVE YOU'RE MIND SET ON IT AND JUST DO IT. PLAIN AND SIMPLE. PLUS...THINK ABOUT YOUR KIDS.
2006-11-01 04:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Kayla H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well he has to give your child support... and if your married he might have to pay you alimony..
remember you get half :)
2006-11-01 04:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you bet, he has you right where he wants you
2006-11-01 04:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋