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Well i been having alot of problems going thru my divorce now.. on Sept 3 i left my husband because for the fact he was to controling and demanding with me and the kids and he refuse to share money issue with me.See we have a babygirl and since she was born. he didn't help me out with her. he didn't change diapers, feed her, dress her, ect.ect. I did everything for me children. So for the reason i left to go back to my parents the next 3 days he files DIVORCE on me. I feel shock he just give up so soon on our marriage we been married just 1yr and 4mths. He will always argued with me about his Family comes 1st . he always want to be with his mother's house and his older sister. I never had the chances to see my family.
So thats why i felt all this was wrong. So i went to menation on Sept 23. he didn't agree to nothing so now the courts are going to make the order. It got me upset so the next day I call him. I haven't spoke to him over a month. I was scaried but something came over me.

2006-11-01 04:34:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

To call him.. so i did on the next day at night. i block my number so he can't see who was it.. I told him alots of things. I told him why he filed divorce 3 days after i left he said cause i left him.. but on that day he really kick me out. he took my car and refuse for me to take my things and so he calls my father to come to pick me up. anyways so i told him. why hasn't he been around for the baby why no child support why no calls or nothing ect ect. he didn't tell me nothing. so i told him if u want to prove to me u want to be in her life then u need to contact me. if u care.
SO this weekend ago on oct 27,28,29 and the baby's birthday oct30, he suddenly start to call me over and over. but i told my lawyer that i call him she got mad and told me not good i shouldnt have spoke to him it might now blow my case.. so to ingorne his calls so i did... so now i feel bad because he left me 2 messages telling me he wants to see his daughter .. but he doesn't sound so good about it either

2006-11-01 04:39:41 · update #1

SO people did i do wrong.. I feel sooo bad.. I'm not a evil person that won't let see his daughter but to the fact he stop seeing her. he filed divorce. and no child support . he hasn't not care to see her.. he knows where i'm staying .. nothing nothing.. i haven;t seen in him.. now he wants to see her just because i told him off... but today is Nov 1 .. he stop calling .. he hasn't call me since oct 30..
SO DID I DO WRONG OR RIGHT..
I feel alittle bad.. But i don't want to blow off my case .. I don't know what to do..

2006-11-01 04:42:23 · update #2

17 answers

He sounds VERY controlling and probably about to become abusive if you had stayed any longer. He is not allowed to kick you out without letting you get your things and take your car and tell your father to come and get you. You should have called the cops that day and had them escort you through the house to retrieve yours and your child's items.

As far as you calling him, I don't think you messed up your case at all, not that I have too much experience in the field of divorce. You are angry and needed an explanation why he did all that to you. My advice is to get the divorce, he sounds like a horrible man and you are much better off without him.

2006-11-01 04:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0 0

The thing is, if he was that controlling and you were only married for a little over a year. Then what would he be like in 2, 4, or more years. Just remember marriage is not one, it is two and they must be equal partners in the arrangement. One cannot have power over the other. When you go to mediation, stand firm on what you want, that is what it is for and above that, Do not call him. This will unnerve you more. The wounds he has inflicted are still to new for you.

2006-11-01 04:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0 0

Hey,

You have no reason to feel bad. The only thing i can suggest to you is that you find a quite place and pray and seek God's face i don;t know what religious bacground you have or if yoyu don't have one at all, but what ican tell you is that God is listening and further more if the Manin question is still tied to his mammas apron strings then let him go so she can finish raising him.

When it comes to people and life my dear remember this"life is one big tree and on to are roots, branches, and leaves. Some people in your life will like the roots others like the branches and the rest leaves. When a leaf is ready to blow off let it blow, because in the next season in that same place another will grow.

stay blessed

2006-11-01 04:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

based on what you have said i feel there is a few points to mention here. it sounds like he is mama's boy and has not grown up. the fact that he did not help you or support you in looking after the child, implies he married you just so he could get what he wanted, it appears he never really loved you and felt he was being pushed into it by the family. the way he has handled it all makes it clear that he really is not concerned about you or your child. let him go learn from the experience and build a rich and rewarding life for yourself and your daughter

2006-11-01 04:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I don't think you're wrong to feel this way. In a perfect world, there would be no "religion," but only the "hope and love for humanity" that you speak of. Since we don't live in a perfect world, religious holidays have become merely cultural celebrations to SOME that can separate one religious group from another. I'm glad to know that you don't see things this way.

2016-05-23 03:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This is a tough time and if you felt that you needed to leave him for a while and he in result filed for divorce then that is what is meant to be. Just stick to your guns and don't let him get his bluff in. Just do as your lawyer tells you to and things should work out for the best. You have to be strong for your child and keep your head up. Good luck.

2006-11-01 04:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by cowchic9 2 · 0 0

There are some unpleasant and not so bright people who respond to questions here. Your husband filing for divorce sounds like a crazy overreaction - so either you are not telling us the whole story or your husband is crazy. Either way if does not sounds like you and he were happy in the marriage so better to end it sooner than later. Good luck.

2006-11-01 04:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0 0

it you are not happy in the relationship you did right. dont ever stay in a situation you are not happy or comfortable with. 1yr 4 months seems like a lot but you can get over it. my sister just got trough a 10 yr marriage divorce. she is fine and even found someone better. good luck.

2006-11-01 04:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by bambi..♥ 3 · 0 0

communication for the child is the best thing, the courts hate dealing with the problems in a divorce

2006-11-01 04:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0 0

i think you should go trough with the divorce because apparently it's over you were unhappy and you don't want to raise your child around that type of enviroment, so just fight for the rights of yourself and your child, stay strong and just focus on your daughter and getting your life back on track and be thankful you have your parents there for you not all of us have that...

2006-11-01 04:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by juicy 3 · 0 0

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