Reconnected with a friend after 10 years who happens to be my first love should I persue this relationship ?

Question

My friend has been in a relationship for the past 3 years.

Answer 1

First of all...the fact that he's been in a relationship for the past three years makes him "hands off", so don't go trying to start trouble. And second, lots of things happen in 10 years and people change ALOT over that long period of time. Chances are that it wouldn't work out anyway. You're just infatuated with who he was 10 years ago, you don't even know who he really is now. Don't try to persue a relationship.

J

Answer 2

The only thing you can do is follow your heart. If your friend just came out of a 3 year relationship, you may want to take it slow, and make sure the feelings are mutual. You wouldn't want to be the rebound girl would you? Other than that, there is no reason why you shouldn't at least date the guy some, to see what happens. Who knows, you may be very glad you at least gave it a chance. I know one will always have feelings for their first love, but many people also marry their first love. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

Don't mess with a good thing. If you can possible be friends, then stay there. If not, let him be happy. Both me and my high school sweetheart were seeing other people when we started talking again. One year later, we found our way back to each other. We are still together now and celebrated our 2nd anniversary Monday. I do not say this to encourage you to break up a 3 year relationship, but just to show that some times people are meant to be. Neither one of us tried to break the other relationship apart. We stayed in touch and at some point, both of us were single again. We were always faithful. I think you should at least to that.

Answer 4

But is he happy in that 3 year relationship? YOu don't know. And that might be part of the hang up. Yes, I think you should try to persue it- at least for a 2 years.

Answer 5

Definately. How does he feel about you? Maybe the relationship he is in is merely him settling because he is comfortable.

From my experience, my fiance cut off all contact with women in his past simply cuz he knew I would be uncomfortable. If this fellow wants to reconnect with you it could be a clear sign he is unhappy where he is at.

Always follow your heart. Living a life filled with regret and doubts of what may have been will tear you up. Go for it!!

Answer 6

if he is in a relationship {if married} then fight your feelings for a higher power, besides if you think that you guys are meant to be together, than you will. But if you break up his relationship, it probably wont be a very good start to yours. If he looks like he's interested than it could be because he really loves you, or because he's a jerk and your just greener grass. but remember grass is just grass, green or brown it tastes the same,he could do the same to you. Be care full and good luck. Good Enough?

Answer 7

We need more information! What is going on with him and this three year relationship? Is he in love and do they plan on getting marriedr? Also, why did you two break up in the first place?

Then again, if you believe in the phrase, “all’s fair in love in war” then go for it regardless of the circumstances. Good luck!

Answer 8

I wouldnt jump in blindly.. Test the waters first... 10 years is along time for change. You may find the both of you have changed too much. or the opposite. But I wish you the best of luck :)

Answer 9

Geez, wasnt there a movie about this? Sure, "My Best Friend's Wedding"....
so...if you're still in love (or could be!) with this person, just tell this person "I think I could fall for you" and depending on the reaction, you either back off or you GET IT ON!

Good luck, wish you could tell us how it turns out!

Answer 10

You should not pursue this relationship if your friend is in a committed relationship with another person.