My sweetheart is busy M to F and on weekends he prepares for his next week. So sex takes a back seat and only is on weekends when i demand. I just dont like it. I love him but this aspect like lack of hugging and cuddling from his side is always missing... Some good advice please
2006-11-01 04:22:16 · 28 answers · asked by nisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to discuss this with him. There could be a myriad of reasons for his lack of desire. It is possible that he has fantasies that he is embarrassed about sharing with you. Come up with some fantasies of your own so that he may feel more at ease about discussing such topics. If you are able to get past the taboo nature of the sex topic, you will see a much more rewarding sex life.
2006-11-01 04:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a little confused is it the lack of sex or lack of intimacy after sex that really bothers you? He could be just busy and too tired for sex some people also just have a low sex drive which is something you will have to decide can you deal with. If it's lack of intimacy after then tell him I know I like to cuddle afterward or it just seems like sex with no emotion involved. Not trying to create a problem here but this is also a sign of a man who is having sex with some one else you may want to check that out what ever you do make sure it's what you can live with comfortably before going on in this relationship don't just fall into an unhappy routine and then waste years of your life being unhappy sometimes it's better to cut your losses and move on the longer you Wait the harder it is. st though talk to him and suggest counseling then go from there Good luck
2006-11-01 04:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by katlady927 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it is, sex is good & I think it helps create a closeness that nothing else can. BUT, I do NOT feel it is as important as so many younger people do. My husband & I have an active sex life, but there are times when neither of us bother with it.
I look at it this way. If my husband were in an accident or had an illness or or??? (GOD FORBID!!) & was no longer able to have sex, would I love him any less???
The answer is NO!!! ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! I LOVE my husband for MUCH more than wether he can "get it up". There is sooo much more to him than that.
Don't put so much importance on sex. It sounds to me like he is building a future & sex it not a part of it AT THIS POINT... It doesn't mean it will always be that way. When my husband was in med. school, during his residency & when he first began to practice the stress level was very high, so sex was secondary in our lives. We survived!!!! because we didn't look at it like we were missing out on something. When things got in order & our lives moved into more of a routine, things picked back up & have stayed up. Ease up a bit. Don't focus on this & when it does happen take the time to talk & cuddle.
2006-11-01 04:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one is a tough one. Can you live with a sweetheart that is like this for the rest of your life? If not you might already have your answer. It is hard to change a person and the way they are and if you have a higher sex drive this will always be a problem.
My ex only wanted sex about once a month. That was something I couldn't live and we ended up divorced. So don't go and get married until you truly resolve this issue.
2006-11-01 04:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's the bottom line: Compatibility is #1 in any relationship. If you are not compatible in the bedroom and the PDA that you feel you need to feel fulfilled in the relationship, then this is going to remain a problem.
It sounds like your BF is just too busy for a relationship right now anyway and from where I'm standing, this is going to be a problem for a while. My advice is that you move on and find someone with more of the elements you're looking for.
2006-11-01 04:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just wait if you really love him!! Im sure he wants to but he also wants to make money to support a family!! Ask him to take a nice vacation or something!! Or wait alittle longer till hes got some days off..Either way, if you really love him, then sex shouldn't have to be demanding! Just think it could be worse...you couldn't have someone to do that with in the first place!! But you do, it onlly happens on weekends, but at least it happens!!
2006-11-01 04:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by DefLeppardxXx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How busy is he? If far extra than worked and a million different issues then he in basic terms could be to drained. if this is so then in basic terms cut back out the a number of issues he's doing and you gets the attention which you relatively %. once I worked 70 hours each week and nonetheless did different stuff my wifey's interest suffered. you recognize get faraway from the all artwork no play.
2016-11-26 22:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by tenuta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a work-o-holic case.
First he should be able to spare some time to talk and enjoy your company. I used to be like that until i decided to set my priorities straight.
Second i'm positive he likes sex but it becomes like a chore if he's just doing it to please you on a weekend... tell him to go into the shower with you after work or set a romantic dinner inside the house where you can both rest from work and cuddle.
And if you're really frustrated from the sex life, TELL HIM ABOUT IT !!
2006-11-01 04:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by CoolSexyCG 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have been there so many times and guess what life is to short to go thew that i have cry ed begged and does not work i look at it like this he might not wanted you know more or he might be having sex with some one else to me i will go to some one that will give it to me then sit there and go threw that see if he is with you then hes with you but if hes not with you all the way then he was never with you in the first place so move on and find some one who will love you all the way not half the way good luck you can do bad buy yourself
2006-11-01 04:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
does he show love in any other ways?? thats tough becayse you have needs too, and he can't even just spare an houe befor bed or when you wake up in the morning? thats strange or you sure he's happy??? maybe theres a problem there and you don't see it clear enough yet... good luck and work with him to figure this out..
2006-11-01 04:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋