i had sex with him about a month ago, he was a virgin, and now i think i'm pregnant... and we're only 16... i'm scared he's gonna freak out
2006-11-01 04:18:18 · 24 answers · asked by cocoaash2021 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He is going to freak out no matter what you do. He is only sixteen and he was a virgin. There really is no right or wrong way to tell him. If you think your pregnant because you missed your period then just tell him that you are late on your period. Dont act really upset because it will in tern make him more upset. Just tell him that you are late and that you want him to go with you to the store to pick up a pregnancy test. Let him be with you the whole time. Dont wait to tell him until you took it. If you are pregnant then he will just think that you were keeping this from him. If he freaks out way too much and doesnt want anything to do with it then he really isnt that great of a boyfriend is he? In the end you need to talk to your parents. You are so young and they are your only support system. I know that everyone is saying that you are stupid for not protecting yourself. I am almost possitive that some of these people have had unprotected sex in their life time. If you arnt pregnant then you really need to be on birth control and use condoms. You dont ever want to deal with this again. Please tell me what the outcome is! email me at
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2006-11-01 04:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by angel l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, before all hell breaks loose, make sure you really ARE pregnant. No sense in getting all worked up over nothing. Second, if you're 16, what the hell are you doing putting yourself in that position? You've got your whole life ahead of you. Slow down. I'm not trying to be rude, I'm trying to be helpful. It's not easy being a parent within a marriage with a fulltime job and family support; so I can't imagine what it would be like that young.
If you are, I wish the best of luck to you both. But I honestly hope you are not and that you have time to think things through. Parenthood is not easy, and if the guy isn't willing to stick with you if you're pregnant (because you say he'll 'freak' out) then you shouldn't put yourself in that position. Good luck!
2006-11-01 04:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by *Jessy* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first find out for sure before you tell him because the last thing you want to do is scare him and your self for nothing. Go to your doctors for a blood test , if the test comes back positive you will need to let him know so the both of you can decide on what you want to do. Your parents will need to know,They will be the ones that you guys will need the support and guidance from. Good luck and I hope that everything works out for the both of you.
2006-11-01 04:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by BASHFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way, other than being honest and start using birth control....he will freak out hes only 16 too ,get some real good professional help plan parenthood is the place to go and go very soon dont wait..now i know your thinking about it..dont ...just go now
2006-11-01 04:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by dave m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YAH he's probably going to flip! but hey. DO NOT TELL HIM anything before you make sure you ARE pregnant. no need to go create crazy waves for no reason! the last thing you want is for you to tell him, have everyone flip, and then find out it was a false alarm...dum on your part!
so get the test, maybe twice just to make sure, then think of ways to tell him. the most effective way, i find, and guys like this the best....just be honest and straight forward. dont play stupid mind games or anything...stay calm when telling him and bring it up lightly. let him freak, if he does, but try to keep him calm as well...if he doesnt, thats a **** load off your back eh!?
2006-11-01 04:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by *wonderful lady* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to make sure he doesn't freak out because everyone is different. You should just be prepared for any reaction. If you already know what you want, that is if you are going to raise the baby, adoption, etc., be sure that he knows that. You can only hope that he is mature enough to deal with the situation you are both facing. Godd luck.
2006-11-01 04:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by 180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a pregnancy test and make absolutely sure you are pregnant...if you are, then bring it up in a non-agressive type way such as, what do you think about children...when I am older I would like to have children, how about you, etc...see what his reaction is...I bet you his reaction will not be anywhere near as bad as your parents and his parents...but from now on protect yourself and get some birth control...condoms are not very expensive when you think about the cost of raising a child...and if you are both only 16 with a child then you will miss out on some of the best years of your lives because you will be stuck taking care of a baby...if you are not mature enough to protect yourselves from pregnancy and STD's then you are definitely not mature enough to have sex in the first place...good luck
2006-11-01 04:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Chris W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. You find out if you are or not. It is your body and you should have protected it. You can't run away from your own womb, this is one place women can't be like a man and vice verse. Grow up, if you're gonna do something as adult as sex, you're going to have to worry like an adult. Go get a test. Find out for sure.
2006-11-01 04:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock him out first? There's no real solution here, hun. Sorry. Just be double sure that you are in fact pregnant. Get a blood test with your doctor. But you do need to tell him. Best of luck!
2006-11-01 04:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋