I am 16 and my mum does not know that i am having sex, my boyfriend of around 4 months comes round my house a lot and my whole family get on with him but i think i may be pregnant he says hell support me the hole way so this is good i am not your stereotypical teenage pregnancy case and my mum would never think this of me..how exactly do i tell her please help!
2006-11-01 04:07:37 · 24 answers · asked by sharna j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well first, find out if you are preggers. You don't want her to scream at you for nothing.
If you are, just tell her. There's no easy way.
2006-11-01 04:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You think that you are not your stereotypical pregnant teenager\
you are just like most if not worst
you not the same because he told you he will support you
girl so have all of the others before him,
you are 16 your mom trust you and instead of a high school diploma you are bringing her a baby
so tell us what so special about you that make you different
Girl just talk to your Parents and hope that your boyfriend of 4 month keep his words
the not so stereotypical teenagers are the ones that keep thier leg close and when they decide to open them they know to use protection
2006-11-01 04:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. I was born and raised in the church and held high standards of myself. I never thought I would get pregnant outside of marriage. But my father wasn't present in the home and when I got to your age, I was so starved for the love and attention of a male figure that when I met my husband, I was 16. I didn't think I would fall in love with this guy but I did. He carressed my heart in such a way that I forgot about all the rules. I got pregnant at the age of 17 and my mother had no clue. But I kept getting the stomach flu in the morning and eventually she took me in for a check-up (not suspecting of course) Well the doctors asked me right then and there and the truth had to come out because the doctors were going to tell her anyway. It got kinda ugly after that. But here we are married 9 1/2 years and we're still in love. Our parents were disappointed for a while, but they got over it. They have 5 beautiful grandbabies. My advice to you is, find out as soon as you can. If it is positive, tell your boyfriend and then tell him to be a man and schedule a meeting with your parents for the both of you to tell them face to face and about the news and profess his intentions towards you regaurding the future. If you were grown-up enough to sleep together than now you have to become an adult. If you're not pregnant, Abstinance is the key.
2006-11-01 04:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by DeDe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First don't tell her your pregnancy tell her the situation and say you think you may be pregnant and you would like her to come to the doctors with you to confirm it and you have to be a grown up and start preparing your self get a little job after school and weekends so that you can save up and be able to help when the baby gets here. Good Luck!!
2006-11-01 04:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by 1 luvly LEO 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find out if your pregnant first and then you need to tell her right away. There's no easy way. Both you and BF need to sit mom and dad down together because you will need their support and there are important decisions that need to be made, and Dr's care that needs to be started NOW. There may be a lot of anger but you have to get a plan now!!! Hope it all works out well for everyone.
2006-11-01 04:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by russianoxford 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out first if you are indeed pregnant. Call the doctor yourself and ask for her to give you a pregnancy test, and since it's patient and doctor confidentiallity, she can't tell your mom. If you are in deed pregnant, all though your boyfriend says he'll stick by you, I wouldnl't plan on him doing that, a majority of them don't. Then you need to just sit your mom down and tell her Mom I know you expected more out of me, and that you have all the right intentions for me, and you want the best for me, and so do I, But I need to tell you something that is really hard for me. I need to tell you that I am pregnant and am this far along. I would like to finish school and go onto college, but I may need your help. And see what she says. Just let her know that your boyfriend says he'll stick by you, and that you would like to finish school and go to college, but you'll need some help. Maybe you'll consider adoption, I don't know.
2006-11-01 04:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by danielle m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i just spit it out to my mom. i didnt want to tell her either...but i really did! takes a LOAD off your chest thats for sure. i says " well mom..i love you...and...your not gona like what you hear ... but i want you to know because i love you and that everything is going to be ok, and im fine with this" *if in fact you really are* and just tell her your pregnant, and how far along you are...tell her that your boyfriend has already agreed to take care of this with you! that'll make her feel a little better. just dont expect her not to freak a little bit..your HER baby girl who's possibly having a baby of her own...its an intense feeling! just wait, you'lll feel it too someday...
but also...i MUST say ... please...at 16 you are in no place to give birth and take care of a baby. you really need to concentrate on finishing high school and keeping this relationship longer, especially. 4 months means NOTHING especially when it comes to making families. that is what you will become...all one together...and that can end tragically becuas eyou are all so young, inexperienced, and jumping the gun here. i would suggest an abortion. OR maybe even give up your baby for adoption. i just really dont think its smart for a 16 year old girl as smart as you to be giving up her future so soon.
either way, what ever choice you make i wish you the best of luck and make sure you keep that baby safe and healthy. there are WAY TOO MANY unwanted uncared for children out there as it is. just remember that. and most of them are caused by adolecnts thinking they're inlove and thinking they can care for it...but end up not being able to. and its really f***ing sad to see this.
2006-11-01 04:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be sure first. Go to some type of pregnancy help center they do tests for free. They will also be able to help you tell your mother. If you are not pregnant make sure you let your mother know you are sexually active so you can be put on birth control. I wish you the best!
2006-11-01 04:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by faybe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest! Sit her down, (take her out to lunch or make her something) and tell her. Tell her what your boyfriend said and what your intentions are. She will probably have more respect for you if you have a plan and aren't all hystarical and immature. Also, maybe have your boyfriend on stand by, so he could also come and talk to her after you have broken the intial ice. Good Luck!
2006-11-01 04:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you have to make sure you are preganant you don't want to tell her you pregnant and your'e not. Go get a pregancy test or go to the doctor. I would say just tell your mom that you want to talk to her. You have to tell her though unless you are going to get an abortion or plan on moving out before you start showing good luck!!!
2006-11-01 04:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by black beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a blood test and find out for sure.
if it comes out positive I would ask her to sit down and tell her you have someting to tell her...... explain to her how it makes you feel and tell her you really need her support right now.
if test comes out neg get some birth control just incase
Good luck
2006-11-01 04:10:57 · answer #11 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋