We have been married a year and we are not close like we used to be he doesn't kiss me or hug me, and looks at a bunch of porn ? which is very unike him....so that makes me confused. He says he doesnt know whats wrong...and doesnt want to end things.
2006-11-01 03:48:56 · 16 answers · asked by Tiffany J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't get upset but did you gain a ton of weight or something?
Hold out and don't give him any affection for a while and he will come to you.
Play him like a piano!
2006-11-01 03:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by LordzAbove 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you make an effort to be a little more sexy for him? He could be bored. I know most men really enjoy porn. Just a male thing. My bf looks at it all the time. Doesnt bother me. A year is not very long when you look at a lifetime. Keep the communication line open. If it closes, not much hope.
2006-11-01 11:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the discussion with him needs to go further. He says he doesn't want to end things. So from there you need to ask him why stay together if you two are growing so far apart? He says he doesn't know what is wrong, but obviously he does and just won't say it or else every thing would be fine. You two need to seriously talk and not let each other escape with simple answers but take the time and make the effort to give true deep answers.
2006-11-01 11:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have you done anything to push him away that you know of he may not tell you what you have done, He may be doing these things so you give him the attention a husband deserves from a wife I cant say if you have been trying hard enough but try and get his attention of he is only interested in porn the problem is he may have been turned off by you in some way make time for your husband its the only way he may be hurting inside .. i say .
2006-11-01 11:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to evaluate the way you treat him. No, take an honest look at your critizisms and corrections of him. Men who aren't respected tend to recluse themselves. Porn is less about sex and more about obediant women. This is the real turn on for men. Secondary will be the nudity. Try respecting him, his opinions, and never correct him in a public forum. Just try it.
2006-11-01 11:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find out what's wrong with him let me know we have almost the same ptoblem. The only difference is my husband don't look at the porn as I know of
2006-11-01 12:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honeymoon is over. He is feeling a little weird about that, just as you are. He doesn't know how to talk to you about this, just as you, perhaps, don't know how to talk to him. Promise yourselves you'll always keep open communication. Love and marriage is more a decision than it is a "fate" thing. God Bless.
2006-11-01 12:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DONT KNOW IF YOU ARE A BELIEVER IN CHRIST BUT I DO KNOW THAT IF YOU DONT START PRAYING FOR THIS MAN RIGHT NOW , NOT ONLY IS HE IN SERIOUS TROUBLE BUT YOUR MARRIAGE IS TOO. NOT LIKE OOOOOH YOUR BAD FOR PORN TROUBLE I MEAN DEMONS WILL INFEST HIS AND YOUR LIFE SO FAST AND WREAK HAVOC AND THEIR MAIN GOAL IS TO DESTROY LOVE. AND BELIEVE ME MAYBE RIGHT NOW IT SEEMS JUST HURTFUL BUT IN THE NEAR FUTURE IT WILL BE DEVASTATING...THIS COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO HAD THE DEMON OF LUST ...BY THE WAY....LUST IS VERY VERY UGLY NOT PRETTY AND P.S. I AM NOT SOME FREAK SHOW WHO MAKES STUPID STUFF UP. IT DONT WANT TO LET GO AND IT IS THE HARDEST TO GET RID OF BC IT OFFERS THE HUMAN SOMETHING THAT FEELS SO GOOD IN RETURN...AND IT BRINGS SOOOOOOOOO MANY MORE WITH IT...JEALOUSY,ANGER,WITHDRAWL,HATE,ETC. SO PLEASE DONT JUST DISCOUNT THIS BC THIS IS NOT A STUPID JOKE.
2006-11-01 13:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try taking control.......you be the dominant one. just grab him and take him. let him know you want some sugah. you hug him, you kiss him. he probably doesnt have his confidence right now, doesnt feel sexy, so you should do your best to make him feel like a stud.
2006-11-01 11:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by SpinKick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get very sexy with him.... use your imagination and blow his mind... maybe it will come back to him... don't let it go and act like nothing is wrong or it will be to late to save. Act fast and good luck to ya.
2006-11-01 11:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Alisha S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋