If you could choose between having someone who is your best friend...or someone who you were very passionate with?
2006-11-01 03:43:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Passionate relationships usually happen because the person you are with is likely your best friend. You are capable of connection on numerous levels. That is how it works for me. My husband is my best friend and we have inside jokes and gossip about our friends, like I would a girlfriend, but because of that I feel emotionally connected to him and the passion just happens on it's own.
I have found that passion is an uncontrolable outcome of great love and affection. It would be hard to find without a strong emotional connection (at least for women). We have a tendency to be a bit more complicated then men when it comes to a sexual relationship.
2006-11-01 04:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I choose both. I'm married and my husband is my best friend and we have a very passionate relationship. I couldn't be married to him and consider him my best friend but not be attracted to him. I would say that if you don't have both these things in your relationship than you are not with the right person. My first marriage I was very attracted to my husband but definitely did not consider him a confidant. Soon the attraction went away and there was nothing left so the marriage ended. I really didn't know him when i married him. Now i'm re-married and have a wonderful relationship for 7 years now and my husband is my best friend and i'm just as attracted to him now as i was 8 years ago when i met him.
2006-11-01 12:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Darcee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm lucky because I've never had to chose. My husband is my best friend and we are very passionate with each other. Too many people try to put a boundary between being your friend and being someone you can have wild sex with. Being your husband means he is both. My marriage is so great because we can communicate about anything. When its a difficult situation where one of us is mad at the other we can talk it out without raising our voices and placing blame. We are above all that and I think to have a successful relationship you have to put your personal feelings aside and do whats right. You might feel like ripping his head off and cussing him but you don't because you love him. You just calmly say, "I'm upset because this happened, or when that happened that really hurt my feelings." That kind of stuff. Self control with communication skills is a killer combo that keeps our marriage hot and healthy.
2006-11-01 11:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best Friend...this is the person I plan to grow old with and one day the physical passion may not be there, but as my friend who shares all my hopes, dreams, thoughts, ideas, and passions, we'll continue to thrive and prosper. When the day comes that all we have is conversion, the passion won't keep us going if that's ALL we based our relationship on. But as Best-friends, the passion comes naturally as does all else. I've been with my high school sweetheart/bestfriend since 15 yr of age...we're now 33 & 34....And our kids say we gross them out with the passion that comes from being best-friends.
2006-11-01 11:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by DayLo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had to choose I would pick friendship. When your close enough to be best friends it makes it easier to be passionate. But I think its very important to have both to have a healthy relationship.
2006-11-01 11:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by AJK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Passion only lasts a short time, I would take the friendship for life!
2006-11-01 11:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 20 years now. I must say that passion is important but I think it is the respect we have for each other along with true compassion for each other.
2006-11-01 12:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am married to my best friend.......I will always choose friendship.....With friendship first it gives you more of an opportunity to be open and honest knowing your not going to be judged on your feelings..........After all it is the way your feel and there is not too much you can do about the way you feel.....
But with my husband being my friend first it makes communication easier...........And the passion comes along pretty well given a few beers! *wink*wink*
2006-11-01 11:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have to choose, because I have both. When looking for a life partner, you better find the right one! The one who does it ALL for you, in bed and out!
2006-11-01 12:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both
2006-11-01 12:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋