ok...I'm married (i'm 22 and husband is 31) I have a very high sex drive.. and so does my husband. I have a probelm with him masterbating...it seems like he always wants to do it even the same night that we have sex and he wants to hide it from me too.. we can have sex at say 5pm then at midnight or so he would wait till I go to bed and masterbate then erase the internet history...OR he will tell me that he's tired or too full from eating to have sex but then he would jack off.. How can I stop feeling this way or what can I do?
2006-11-01 03:41:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please no rude answers..or you will be reported
2006-11-01 03:42:11 · update #1
we have sex about 4-5 times a week and gets off every time
2006-11-01 03:52:52 · update #2
hi,
it's a problem, but not a serious one, you don't need to talk to him about this, 'coz it won't help anything and just get things worst, you shouldn't think that " UR NOT PLEASING HIM " 'coz it's wrong, it's his problem and he should solve it himself and he will. just give him a chance and don't try to stop him ... just somehow show him that you're not happy with his ... but don't directly get him to the point ...
2006-11-01 03:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by OMID T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you feeling? Like you are not satisfying him? It just seems like he has a wicked high sex drive. The good thing is, he isn't going out after other girls. He is just taking care of it himself. Have you talked to him about it...try having sex more. Try a couple times in a night. I would not be too concerned.
2006-11-01 11:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by TripleTattoo™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at first reading, i would have said who cares if he does this as long as your sex life is not being disturbed, so is it? or are you just bothered that hes hiding it? talk to him, find out why he needs to or if he just wants to do this, tell him that you dont care but just dont hide it from you. but if hes not being satisfied with you alone, well then try new things that both can enjoy. go to a sex store and things there, or maybe it has nothing to do with sex, maybe you want to be close to him not just for sex, but you think that's the only way to get his attention. if that's it, just try cuddling and leave it at that fro the night. so maybe sex when you 2 do have it will be more fulfilling. if all fails then try a sex therapist. good luck to you,
2006-11-01 11:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by kmcglidden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with him about your concerns. You said something about Internet history...if he's looking at porn and it bothers you, discuss it with him. Maybe he masturbates after making love is because he's still excited and ready to go, but I can't guarantee that's the answer. Talk to him, see what's going on, and if needed, see a marital counselor or a sex therapist. Good Luck.
2006-11-01 11:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is addicted to porn. pray and get him some help. and never feel like it is your fault because it's not it's an addiction he have's and like any addiction he is going to have to get help, but he's going to want to help him self first. communication is always a start! tell him how you feel! Also let him know that in the word of God there is a story that tells about a man spilling his seeds and God killed him because he was waist his seeds and it is not the will of God for anyone to masterbate
2006-11-01 11:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the same about when my man did it, but then he explained it to me. It's not that he doesn't enjoy what you are doing and that it doesn't feel good, it's just he knows exactly how he wants it so it makes it more intense. But he shouldn't be hiding it from you. And if it bothers you that much tell him you want him to guide you while you do it for him so you don't feel left out or unwanted....
2006-11-01 11:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something that will take it off from his head. I think that his masturbation increases his sex drive, which makes him more eager to do sex. On my opinion, try to lessen the "activity" so that his drive will also lessen and so as his masturbation.
Hope I helped u with that. Godspeed! :)
2006-11-01 11:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by marcelino angelo (BUSY) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit him down let him know how it makes u feel..try to find out why he does it ....sometimes my x husband use to do the same thing i dont know y but i guess its a guy thing i wouldnt let it bother u that much atleast his hand is giving him pleasure instead of another women
2006-11-01 11:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lethim probably will feel off
2006-11-01 11:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HATE TO SAY IT BUT UR NOT PLEASING HIM SORRY BUT
THATS WAT IT SOUNDS LIKE TO ME BUT I WOULDNT NO IM
STILL A VIRGIN
2006-11-01 11:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋