why wont my husband do the housework????

Answer 1

it is a womans job to do house work, simple!

Answer 2

As most have already said - he is probably too lazy, or maybe he's letting you get as much practice to get it right (lol).

I might be a bit unusual but I always did the housework, shopping, meals, dishes, ironing, take the kids the school, etc, even though I worked shifts and my ex just lazed about. She would take 3 hours to do what should only take 20 minutes, but for someone who worked hard in the house (??) she would spend the whole summer sitting in the garden, and just made sandwiches for the kids at lunchtime as anything else would interfere with her sunbathing. So it is not always men who are lazy in any relationship !

Housework can easily be shared and halves the time required therefore more time for other things important in life. You just need to give the guy some incentive for helping out - treat him like a kid but he'll soon get the idea.

Answer 3

Most likely because he knows that you will always do it and he sees no real benefit to start now..

This is the time when you need to play to the way a guy thinks and exploit it. Yes, we are all big kids with larger expensive toys in the sandbox of life.

Start with a list of simple Tasks and show him how you want them done. Provide him with the time line for completion and then the reward. This is where it gets fun :) I do it with my kids and it works great.

Assign points for all tasks and then rewards based point accumulation. I know it may sound stupid, but if implemented correctly, you will not be doing any house work.

My scale:

5 points: clean room
3 points: sweep floor
1 point: hang up coat

Chucky Cheeze day: 25 points
Movie: 25 points
Rent Video Game 10 points

I imagine that you can find a way to accomplish the same goal here. You use positive re-enforcement to accomplish what you want. Not getting the points/reward is not failure but an unexplored opportunity.

Hope it helps, kids make for great slave labour :)

Answer 4

Some men refuse to do housework. They are lazy and don't want to bother. They don't think the house looks as bad as you think it looks if the dishes aren't done and the bed isn't made. So, you have a choice. You can do it all yourself, or you can hire help. I'd tell your man: here is a list of things that have to be done regularly so we can live in a neat, clean environment and not get sick. If you want to choose some things to help with, then I'll be really appreciative. If you don't want to do any of this, I plan to hire a cleaning service and you will need to pitch in half of the cost. You choose. See what he says then!

Answer 5

Common problem. Seen as womans work and some men go all sort of pathetic if expected to hover or dust. Mine actually asked how to switch the hover on.....always (if ever putting a load in machine) has to ask about programme setting etc.....not high on their priorities and the mess does not worry them so they see no point maybe.
Why not chat about it and try and persuade him to do a few things.....like put the buckets out, load the dishwasher........every littlehelps.

Answer 6

I think we all learn rolls from our parents. My ex wouldn't do anything in the house - not even to making me a cup of tea or helping with 4 small children when I was on chemotherapy. He used to wake me up at 2am to make him a drink and toast. I was so ill and emotionally battered that I did it! - And nearly died because of it - But I am better now and if a man tried that again I would throw him out!

Oh, and in response to a few of the answers - I always did the garden, and decorated - he didn't have a job.

I wish you more luck with your husband and hope he starts helping you soon.

Answer 7

He was spoiled by his mother who was a bad role model for him of what a woman's role is. You will have to undo what she did and teach him that things are different in this day and age and a 'real' man helps and does his share. Let him know in no uncertain terms that you are not a House Elf!!

Also teach him to do it correctly. Be sure that if you have children that both the girls and the boys learn to do the household chores so that your son's wifes will love you someday.

Answer 8

because he's lazy,you should share the housework as marriage is suppose to be a partnership,do what i do if he doesn't help just make your own dinner and tea or coffee and let him do his own he got so annoyed with this that he soon bucked his ideas up!

Answer 9

Because you do it for him!
I used to do a little housework, my threshold for untidyness was greater than my wife's. Then we got a cleaner, she does alot but it does make you more house proud and I do more now than before.

Answer 10

My husband doesnt do housework because it is just plain lazy..

Answer 11

because men are lazy and believe that housework is a womens job lol