I've been married for 2 years. My husband and I are on the verge of separation?

Question

We are renting a home. He works and I stay home am take care of our child. Do I leave or does he?

I have one son. I've tried to get a job but it's not enough to pay for daycare. Unless he pays for it. I have my family backing me up and will be getting a lawyer. I don't want to stay here long term just until I can figure out how I'm going to survive with my son and not having him to depend on. I have only 1 two year old son.

It has got to the point that my safety is an issue.

Answer 1

Once safety is an issue, you should leave. Go and stay at a family or trustworthy friend. If you are renting and he leaves how will you manage to pay the rent on your own anyway?

Answer 2

This is a decision that you two need to make together. Normally in a situation such as this most men are the ones that move out simply because they don’t want to uproot the children. But he is not legally required to be the one to move out, unless you get a court order ordering him out.

And since alimony was mentioned…generally speaking, the chances of receiving alimony for a *2 year marriage* (which is very short term) are slim unless there are circumstances such as you putting your education on hold in order to work and support the family while he pursued his (doesn’t sound like that’s the case). IF alimony is ordered it will be for a very short time.

You will, of course, be entitled to child support should you receive custody of the child.

Unless you have major savings to rely on, you need to get a job before you do anything.

Answer 3

2 children in 2 years? Are they his or somebody elses? I have been in this situation before myself. If he leaves, who will pay all of the bills? I assume you are going back to work? The worst thing you can do is stay with him if yall are fighting. The children do sence this kind of thing. I stayed in an abusive relationship because of my son. It is NOT worth it. My son saw way too much. Hope everything works out with yall.

Answer 4

He leaves. The reason being is you are the one taking the responsibility of the child. The child's well being must take priority over everyone else's. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

If it's easier to start with, move in with your family members until the details are worked out. He should be the one who moves out and leave you and your child in the house. Good luck.

Answer 6

with divorce rates so high, is there a way you can work things out instead? seek counseling perhaps? try your best to keep your family together would be my first piece of advice. if it fails after you've both tried, then i think you two should decide together who leaves. if that doesn't work, then the one who wants to the most should leave.

Answer 7

marriage is hard work, it takes two to make it work. communication is a big key to a succesful relationship.
you have a child involved and that child deserves the best of both parents, whether you are together or not. be functional parents for your child's sake.

Answer 8

Neither. Why are you separating? What happened to end this relationship? Y'all have a child. That alone should make you work this out. Good luck.

Answer 9

to answer your ? you have to ask your self can you afford you apartment and the bills by yourself? then you should be able to answer that ?, because as much as they tell you they'll help you they wont, trust me i know, And right now im in the same place as you but can't leave cuz i have 5 kids to think about without income right now it's not possible.

Answer 10

Don't you think you need a job BEFORE you ask that question? Unless you have a trust fund with money in it to pay your rent and utilities and groceries.