Just looking for opionons on what you see him saying?

Question

I don't want to argue, or send mixed messages so the best way for me to communicate is by writing. I don't think this marriage is going to last, Im sure it won't. I get the impression that you are going to strive to make my life hell. But you must see this is not a functioning marriage. I'm not myself when you are around and I miss being myself. Contrary to what you think I'm not sneaky, I don't have a bad temper. Although sometimes I think you push me into those corners. I often times feel lonely being around you. With all the arguing(from both of us) it is tough if not impossible to push that aside and feel comfortable. I'm the first one to think I'm a failure, because I don't think a marriage is supposed to be desposible, however there are sometimes bridges which are burned that can't be repaired.You should know that Pj is always first on my priority list. I would cut my own leg off if he needed one. I know you proabably see me as a work aholic,but if thats what it takes thats what i do.I know you're nosey and concerned about my emails, however trust is a huge deal to me and basically youhave proven time and time again you don't trust me.
Thats just a couple thoughts im able tocome up with right now

Sorry for the confusion my husband emailed this to me. But it's still good see what people say when they think I wrote it.

Our lives are going to be tough for awhile. But I know I can get through it.

Answer 1

I think it is good so far. You are telling him how you feel. Explaining in detail where you are finding issues in your relationship that has gone wrong. Also I think writing sometimes is the best way to explain things. Every thing is right there to read and the person reading can't change it around. It's right there in black and white. Good luck to you. I hope that you are able to smile again.

Answer 2

Face to face is the best way to handle things. The phone is too cold and a letter is dangerous and can become a legal and binding document depending on what you say in it.

OK so your husband wrote this to you...well, like I said face to face is the right way to do it. You're right - it will be a tough road for you guys for a long time.

Answer 3

I agree with La Dolce, you need to do this in person. You owe it to your husband to sit down and have a frank conversation about your marriage. Remember to remain calm the entire time, and do not put the blame on him; this will lead to an unproductive argument. If you are unhappy, there is a good chance he is also unhappy. Good Luck.

Answer 4

you're doing a lot of finger pointing - "i know you're nosey", "you push me into those corners", "you are going to strive to make my life hell". stop with the accusing - it will only put him on the defensive & probably make him angry - just say, "i want out", "i'm not happy", "it's not working out for me", "i need to move on", "I still love PJ", "i only wish you well". that's all you gotta say, don't provoke him - he may be waiting for that & it will just be another argument. leave him in peace (hopefully). that's what i did with my ex - i did it with dignity. i could have said you're a nut, a psycho, you're an emotional abuser, etc., etc., etc., but i did not want to stoop down to his level. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I am in a similiar situation, i know how you feel. It really sucks!!!!!
I am ending my marriage as painful and hard as its going to be but at least i will remember who i really am and can relax and be myself. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Im sorry you sound very sad about your marriage.....probably is time to give a new sense to your life......enjoy your baby and the beutiful things that life offer to us......☻

Answer 7

She pretty much sumes it up... Thats good advice...