What if you've gone through all that stages of grief...and it keeps?

Question

creeping back in your head...making you feel DEPRESSED....How can you just move on?...there must be away that works best for obsessive compulsive people???

Answer 1

What helps is trying to keep occupied. Distract yourself as much as you can. With other people around preferably. In between times , grieve let it all come out...it's okay. Grief has no set pattern or time on it but know that each day you are nearer to peace of mind.

Don't try to block out grief as it will last longer. Nor dwell in it all day and everyday.

You see you say you've gone through all the stages of grief, anger, guilt etc. but those stages can and do come back at you and not in any given order.

It will be hard but you need to force yourself back into the life you have now.

If you are very depressed see your doctor who may be able to prescribe something for you in the short term.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

the stages of grief should be viewed as a continuum w/ no definitive static boundaries from one stage to next. Viewing it this way you may understand that you may not be in the stage you think you are in...different levels of grief may be expressed for years after an event. It takes time.

Consider this acronoym: S.A.R.A.H (stages of grief)

S = Shock
unbelief, stunned at occurrence of event; the loss.

A = Anger
Anger directed at deceased; the loss (job, marriage,
companionship, etc.); other people in general; self; God.

R = Rejection
Reject the reality of the loss. Become isolated and
depressed.

A = Acceptance.
Incorporate loss into new routine or/and purpose.

H = Healing
Able to freely discuss the pain of the loss w/ new insight
and without becoming overwhelmed by the loss.

Answer 3

More than likely, if you've lost someone close to you, the grief never fully goes away. I don't believe you can ever completely get over something that traumatic. You will always carry a part of that person with you. Some days will be better than others, but with time you will start to feel better. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I'll say this. Grief never goes away! You learn to deal with it. Everyday is a new day. So everyday is a new challenge. My mother passed seven years ago. It feels like yesturday. But I have to go on. Depression still visits me like an old friend that I don't care to see. Keep fighting.They say that grief is for the living. The one who passed is living it up somewhere, happy and free, wishing you happiness and wellness. So if you look at it that way, it may help. When my "old friend" visits me, I try to think of my mother being happy and it helps a bit. But even still, God knows I still miss her. (We were close.) Good luck to you. You can fight this!

Answer 5

good question!! december 1st, 1984 changed my life forever, my grandfather got struck down by a car by a drunk driver and killed instantly, i was verry close to him too. as one person said, sometimes you never get over them, there are days where i miss him so much but grieving don't help me, i think of all the good times we had together and believe me for knowing him for 12 years, i had alot of memories. the anniversary is only a month away from today but i celebrate his life now and not grieve over him and if thats your case, then celebrate whoever it is you lost and don't cry over their death and also keep yourself occupied when its really bothering you, and also keep talking about your pain that you are feeling or if you can't, then write it down, start a journal that knowbody can read but yourself, and even write down the good days for when you are depressed, then you can look back and see how you felt on the good days and maybe that might help too. good luck, i know how you feel!!!!

Answer 6

for people like that they must get help from an outside source. weather it be a pastor a councilor or just a friend. let medication be the last resource. try talking out your feeling first. if u advance to hurting people or yourself then dont hesitate to seek a Dr for medication that might help in your recovery.depression is not a game to be played with. get help now before it get out of hand.

Answer 7

The only way that you can get over something is with time. Sounds corny, but time really does heal all wounds. Just move on, keep on working and living your life. If you need extra help, you can talk to someone about it.

Answer 8

From my experience, it never leaves. Some people have this misguided opinion that if you lose 1/2 of yourself, you can be talked into wellness. Well it don't work!

Answer 9

See a Christian Therapist, worked for me!!!!!!!!!!