what should i do if my husband continues to lie to me?

Question

If my husband lies to me about little thing of no importance, could it be that he lies about things that can really hurt me?

Answer 1

The answer to your question is YES. Let me put it to you this way. If he lies about things that really don't matter to him...what do you think he does when it is things that really matter to him? If you can answer that question with "he lies" then your next question to yourself is this....Do I belittle myself even more by staying in a relationship that is nothing more than...(yes you guessed it) a lie? Good luck to you

Answer 2

It is very possible that if he lies on the small stuff he will lie about the big stuff. However, he may not be doing any big stuff to lie about. It is possible though.

I have to ask you about your behavior; do you lie about the small stuff as well? He may be reflecting back to you what he is getting. I am not accusing you, I am just pointing out possibilities.

Bottom line is that you are married now, and that both of you should try by all means to fix issues before they get to big to handle, and end up in divorce.

I find it amazing how people here have diagnosed your husband as a pathological lier with just your question.

P.S. loserwent's point is very valid too.

Answer 3

You already know the answer to this. And what has he already lied to you about that you just haven't caught? Time for some straight talk with him. Lying about little things creates a rift of trust in your marriage. That will only make you wonder all the time if he is being truthful or not. Your spouse should be your team mate in life. He needs to understand that you are on the same team. He needs to commit to be honest with you in everything, or else he's telling you the marriage is over.

Answer 4

Might be the case. Some people really do have an issue with telling little white lies, though it doesn't always mean he is telling you big lies. Sounds to me like there is more to the story, you must suspect him but the question is about what?

Answer 5

You need to call him up about this because if he can easily lie about the little things, what is there to stop him lying about bigger things? I think need to confront him and ask him why he does it. The thing you will then have to consider is, is he really telling the truth or he is just lying to keep you happy and quiet. Either way confront him and see what he says and then make a judgment

Answer 6

Sounds like you and your husband need to talk about this first. Sit down with him and tell him how you are feeling. Tell him that you feel he is lying to you and that you don't like this. Tell him that it might poosibly ruin your relationship/friendship and that you are taking it seriously. He may not be lying. This may be your way to confront him about the situation, talk to him about your feelings and see how he honestly answers. He may also be keeping things from you , you will never know until you find out foryourself by checking out clues as to his lies, for example"i went out with my guy friend to watch a hockey game", and you see him with another woman. You may also be worried for nothing because maybe he really did go to the game with his guy friend. whatever the case talk things out first without making any drastic moves or coming to any destructive ideas. Goodluck and I hope it works out for you.

Answer 7

you know i went through the same thing with my husband. we are going on 5 years now and are getting a divorce the first of the year. i can tell you it will not cahnge and it will get worst. there are people who are really habitual liers. think about it if he lies to you about something so small that would not be a big deal than what do you reakky know about him??? trust me i went through it bad too.

Answer 8

sounds like he doesn't even have to think about it , it's just automatic for him it's a natural reaction for him to lie for no reason. You should bring it to his attention and if he continues to do it , then you need to analyze does he do it in all situations? But odds are he doesn't have much of a conscious if he can do this so easily. Odds are that he really knows he's lying when he does this.

Answer 9

Yes he can and he will. You are hooked up with a pathological liar. For some unknown reason these people feel they have to add a little lie to every truth there is. They are not to be trusted.

Answer 10

Sometimes people say white lies to avoid problems or an argument.....you have to understand this if you catch him in something important talk to him and let him know you don't like to be treated like an idiot...probably you have your temper and your husband is afraid to be honest with you .......he knows how you will react.