Ok, Ppl i really need help on this, i hate this, ok, i been with a guy 6 years he cheated on me and ive cheated on him. he hit on me, been like that for awhile, but the last 3 months he has changed, but there another guy i think i love, he loves me and would do anything, im trying to work things out with my boyfriend i been with 6yrs for my lil boy sake, because i want things to work. but then agian i find myself thinkin about this other guy alot, what do i need to do.i really want things to work out i dont wont 6 years down the drain
2006-11-01 02:56:47 · 13 answers · asked by lil_one_penny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have been misereably loyal for 13 years, do not let 6 turn into 13
your little boy will be better off too
2006-11-01 02:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to couples therapy. If he refuses, then you know he's not willing to change and dump his bum like a hot potato. And don't worry about the lil' one, if it's you that isn't happy then it's you that you need to be concerned with. Has he hit you for the past 6 yrs.? because if he has, then leave and fast! and if needed, get a Protection From abuse Order on his bum, and sort it all out in domestic relations court. Only you can decide your ultimate happiness.if you need someone to talk to, I'm always available via e-mail(it's johnsonkiriagofamily@yahoo.com.) And how long have you been with the other guy? I'd give myself some space from all men so you don't crash and burn any potential soul mates(or to let you decide what you want to do).
Best Wishes!
MamaJenn JK
2006-11-01 11:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mama JK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising your child in an abusive atmosphere ( the hitting, the cheating) is the worst thing you can do. Do not stay with someone who raises his hand to you. You say he's changed recently but I think he senses your interest in someone else and is just in a 'cooling off' period. Men that abuse will resort to that behavior sooner or later unless they receive intense counseling. Best not to bring another man into your childs life just yet. Get out on your own, get your head straight. Get some counseling to help you through self esteem issues. He threw you both down the drain when he raised his hand to you. Good Luck
2006-11-01 11:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lynda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u both cheat on each other than there is not more trust or honest between u and him. move on with life because once u cheat u will always cheats .So the best thing is to both go find someone else and start over . Because cheating can cause alot problems.But if have kid i would try to work it out but sometime best to start all over again but can still be friends.
2006-11-01 11:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Single 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave first guy cause the two of you together is not good you must leave him because its time and you must not because of other guy.
Then wait a while to see if other guy was just not looking good to you because you needed to be loved for a change. You might be using other guy as an excuse to finally end the first relationship. Remember once you are single other guy might not find you so convenient anymore especially if there is a kid involved. But leave first guy anyway.
2006-11-01 11:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where was your commitment from the start? The foundation is built on sand. Sounds like its an anything goes relationship, so whats the problem? Start thinking about your children rather than yourself. They didn't ask for this, you did! Back up and really think about your next move. You can start replacing the sand with rock but it takes a commitment. Your children depend on your teaching, don't let them down!
2006-11-01 11:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by KIB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about how long you have been with him. You can't trust each other, since you have both cheated. It would be better for your little boy to see mommy in a healthy relationship. Please believe this. Time invested is not a reason to try to make a relationship work.
2006-11-01 11:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 years you should know if you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy or not. If so; stick with him. If not, then it is time to move on. Why waste antmore time with him?
2006-11-01 11:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man puts his hands on you, get out it only gets worst, your son will be fine
2006-11-01 11:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ricky Lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldve married you FIVE years ago...if he wont do that before Thanksgiving try the other guy
2006-11-01 10:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋