After my divorce, i numb myself to find boyfriends online...and end up falling for a married man. I know it's impossible but i just want to hold on to him as i really need that kind of love to heal my wounds...that caused by my ex-husband. I know it's wrong but i really dun know who to turn for help.
2006-11-01 02:53:46 · 10 answers · asked by Rainbowgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being in a relationship with a married man can only add to your pain and sorrow. After being in a relationship where your husband gave you wounds ,the last thing you need right now is sharing the man you want with his wife. You will always come second to him and that will keep your wounds open. What you need is a man who can devote himself to you completely and this man cannot. You deserve so much better than this. Make a choice that will be good for you in the long run and you know what that is. Wish you the best of luck .
2006-11-01 03:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Healing takes a long time. Having an affair with a married man will only bring more pain and sorrow. The only thing that happens by being the "other" woman is that you can possibly break up a family and inflict pain and suffering on them.
Time will heal your wounds and you need time to get through this difficult period. Being with a married man is not going to help you.
It sounds as if you need to mourn the loss of your marriage. Get help from a professional to ease your journey to a better life.
2006-11-01 11:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Juanitaville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think about what you are saying, you are lonely so since your marraige is over you are willing to ruin someone elses life. How selfish of you. And for the married man to allow this to happen is just as selfish he is taking advantage of your feelings right now to get what he needs. You need to go to counseling and get offline I mean come on it is a divorce and you will get over it and it is not the end of the world. I have been there and it does take time to heal but leave the married men alone and their family's. Go get professional help.
2006-11-01 11:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn to yourself....you are just belittling yourself and trying to justify a relationship that probably won't go anywhere. You ex-husband caused you a lot of wounds...now what are you doing to yourself? Your causing more wounds. You are so much better than that and you deserve a lot more for yourself. Find a love that isn't already taken. That way that love can focus all on you and not on someone else. Good luck to you!
2006-11-01 10:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of this relationship, hes married and youll end up hurt because hes already committed. he wont heal your wounds and will open up really bad ones.
take time for you right now, learn to love yourself meet other people. your selfesteem right now is very low, maybe some counseling could work. if you dont work on you youll keep falling for these kinds of situations, that will end up hurting you in the process. god bless you
2006-11-01 11:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by cruzanglero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in rebound. This is what happens, it's a fact. You need to hold off for awhile a morn or whatever. Don't go looking. Give your self some time. Ulitmatly, you need to eventually get over it and move on.
2006-11-01 12:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by El Conquistador 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be aware of the consequences. If your need for his love and attention right now outweigh the possible negative possibilities, then continue. Just be wary that you are setting yourself up for further hurt.
2006-11-01 16:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try and find someone else i am still healing too and i am probably just like you needing someone to have there to make you feel good but i dont have that either
2006-11-01 11:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first three answers are excellent. I agree with them all. Thanks for asking. I know you are going through a very hard time. I have been there. It is also a time that you can make some very bad decisions. You are vulnerable.
2006-11-01 11:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there with my second wife.I have tried tobe there as a friend for her but it seemed like it do any goog.If you wat to chat more you can email me at shro_73@yahoo.com.We can talk more about what to do.
2006-11-01 12:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by mikey s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋