Help Me Plz?

Question

can you love someone and cheat on them? me and my boyfriend been together 6 years we havea 5 year old lil boy and i found out that he cheated on me 3 time in the begin, and about 10 months i cheated on him. i regret it so much, and wish i didn't do it, Can people change?

Answer 1

I believe if you cheat, you didn't have enough respect for him in the first place. If you loved him you would of never put yourself and your child in that kind of situation. You have a child and that is your first priority. I believe you can change but is it worth it?

Answer 2

Maybe you guys didn't think it was going to turn into something so serious. Yeah you can change. It just takes time and trust. If all that stuff happened 6 years ago than you should let it pass. You both did stuff you regret but its in the past and since then you've both been faithful? If you're being open with the times you cheated in the past then you guys should make a big deal about forgiving each other and yourselves for what you did. That way you can move on in your relationship. This could end up bringing you closer together.

Answer 3

I think you can still love the person your with after you cheat. You and your boyfriend really need to talk about why you feel you have to cheat on each other and fix the problems or give up this relationship. Nothings worth hurting each other for a few good times with someone else. Hopefully you'll both change for the better.

Answer 4

Yes of course people change but it doesn't mean that you or him don't love each other any less. Cheating is here and always will be. My fav quote is, "What you don't know won't hurt you". Grant it, its wrong but its human nature to wanna cheat. My bestfriend just got married and she was with her boyfriend for 6years before they got married and she cheated on him all the time. But she loves him, those other guys where just something to play with at the time. So in all I wouldn't fell guilty about it. Just be protective when you do what you do so you are both safe. And don't go snoopin around to find out if he is cheating on you, cause it will only hurt you more in the end. Hope all goes well sweety.

Answer 5

Yes, people can change. Why did you cheat on him? For revenge or did you do it before you knew about his infidelity? I would be more concerned with his cheating...simply because it was more than once. Air it out. You both need to sit down and get it all in the open...Let the dust settle and start over. Remember, you have a child it is not just the two of you.

Answer 6

Don't listen to people when they tell you "once a cheater, always a cheater". People change all of the time. To ensure that this won't happen again you both must be committed to making each other happy. Cheating happens when one or both of the partners feel that something is lacking and as long as you both make the effort to keep each other satisfied, I think everything will work out. Communication is the key, let him know when you feel there is something missing and make sure he knows he can come to you also.

Answer 7

Definitely. People can change, but change is from the inwards to the outwards. Its all about our attitudes, our thinking, our past experiences, etc. But the most important is that for you to change you must first have the self will to change and then you have a change of attitude. Once these are in place, then every other thing becomes easy.

So take the bull by the horn and effect the much desired change in your life. The fact that your spouse cheated on you at one time or the other, is not a justification to cheat on him. You must understand that your dignity should be protected at all times and musnt cheapen yourself by indulging in such acts believing that your are retaliating for his cheating on you.

Answer 8

Its about maturity and respect. I believe you can love someone and still cheat but you learn with time the affects that this will have on a relationship. Hopefully its out of your system now and you two can forgive each other and move forward. When I was younger I would not have tolerated someone cheating on me, now I know that love is about forgiveness and I just may be willing to move forward with this person if I truly loved him. Everyone makes mistakes, its part of being human.

Answer 9

I do believe you can love someone and cheat on them. But I also do not agree with doing it either. If you love the person with all your heart nothing will get in the way of that love. When you give yourself to the other person it means 100% nothing less. You can still love your boyfriend but do you love them in a different way? You do have a child with him so no matter what there will always be a special place in your heart for him.

Answer 10

Yes people can change. But is requires alot of work. Alot of personal commitment. Relationships are hard. They are seldom perfect and without problems. If there is real love and you want to maintain this relationship than first and foremost communication is a must. Honest and open. First you have to be honest with yourself, what do you expect and want from your partner, what are you willing to deal with and what you are not. If your relationship does fail, remember that you are parents, and you will always have to maintain a relationship for the sake of your son. I suggest some deep soul searching and evaluation of where you see this relationship going, and what kind of parents will you both be. Good luck. Change can and does happen but not overnight.

Answer 11

There ius always a small chance people can change, the reality hjowever is they rarely do. I do beleive that you can love someone and cheat on them however this is because the cheating is more of a flaw in the person doing it then anything else.

This usually also means once a cheater always a cheater.