..if you can forgive and yet not forget...does that still count as forgiveness? Or do you have to really just be able to let the whole thing go to call it real forgiveness?
In my opinion, sometimes...really bad things happen, and its hard for one person to forget all of that n pretend like it never happened, but it might start to hurt less with time. And even though they still think bout all of this, they can forgive the other person for hurting them, cuz they love them and they understand that everyone makes mistakes and that this person is sorry for whatever they did.
Have i gotten my idea of forgiveness all mixed up?
2006-11-01 02:19:57 · 12 answers · asked by Jaded 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't think so....sounds like my thinking, anyway. We forgive and choose to either continue the relationship despite the past or we don't forgive, and live miserably. If love is strong enough then the pain will lessen with time and become just 'dust in the wind'......when we harbor ill feelings toward others, it only makes us bitter. Forgive and get on with life!!
2006-11-01 02:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No sweet. Man cannot forget, even if he tries very hard. Somehow information are retained in our sub-conscious minds until we die. We can forgive at best. What forgiveness [and especially if done in and through Christ] does, is to enable us not be so affected by the memory of what has happened. It elevates you to a higher level. God alone enables you to look down on the situation from the outside and not to allow the bad and negative memories to affect you, because you have made the choice to forgive. It does not come easy, however. It is a painstakingly slow process - there is just no instant solutions here. Whenever you are faced with the memory of the bad or unjust events, you conscioulsy make a choice to live by your decision of forgiveness. That sets you free.
Only god can forgive and forget...
2006-11-01 02:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by godshandmaiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving and then forgetting is very important in life. Like you said we all make mistakes. It is harder to forget. The key is, is to forget the situation and not bring it up, or throw it in the persons face, but to take it as a lesson learned.
2006-11-01 02:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is one thing. To "forget" is to not bring it up anymore or hold it against someone. That is not the same as being cautious about the one who wronged you.
When you don't "forget," you could end up being a bitter soul. At the same time if you don't learn a lesson from it you could end up a fool letting it happen to you again.
2006-11-01 02:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you can forgive a person without forgetting what they did to hurt you. The reason we remember is so that we are aware of harmful behaviors before they occur later in life.
2006-11-01 02:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Gwynnyth the forest wench 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I supply people the best thing approximately the doubt. i'm able to forgive and be forgiving to furnish a individual the prospect to coach their previous errors are interior the previous on a similar time as allowing that air to heal any injury that they have got probably brought about. i do no longer forget, using fact in existence I take the undesirable with the sturdy using fact with out the undesirable and the errors it incredibly is how I know substitute for the extra helpful effect. i do no longer know a thank you to quit being concerned approximately somebody notwithstanding if I even have not spoken to them in years, as quickly as I see them it incredibly is widespread, they'll continuously smile the comparable way they used to grin they'll seem older in spite of the indisputable fact that it feels the comparable. yet do I supply them the prospect to splendid some thing they broken? particular, i could be prepared to attend and notice and to be sure if that they had grown up considering the fact that that occasion of the place they brought about injury. everybody is on no account by capacity of nature reason to wreck others, they do it by capacity of twist of fate? by way of random undesirable judgements? and their conclusions are often on no account what they actually meant to do? distinctive situations have distinctive reasons and reasons, yet to hold a grudge possibly could be ones very own mistake, once you do have thoughts in direction of somebody. everybody is human and merits the prospect to coach that they have got learnt from their errors? complicated question.
2016-10-21 02:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by corl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not mixed up at all. You can forgive, but if you forget then what has happened will repeat again. Never forget, but forgive readily.
2006-11-01 02:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by matters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you can forgive and forget, that just leaves you open to hurt again. Though if you just forgive thats one thing. to do both is stupidity
2006-11-01 02:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rachael S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel like if you are willing to forgive that means that you should also forget, in the sense that you should not keep bringing up the issue.
if it was a learning experience, you shouldn't have to forget. just remember enough from the situation that you learn from it.
2006-11-01 02:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by jenzen25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not try to forget, but forgiveness is a must, give it to god, god can do a much better job with any thing dealing with all that you went thru, then you. give it away, thats one of his ways.This is what the spirit is for, for one thing, to take away your troubles, and cares, and deal with them for you,
2006-11-01 02:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋