but i want my future husband to believe that i am one .what do i do i am 25yr and i hope to get married in 5-10yrs time pls help me
2006-11-01 01:54:30 · 39 answers · asked by abenabox 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It shouldn't matter whether or not you're a virgin, unless there are cultural or religious reasons for him to think you are. Either way it's a lie, and you shouldn't base your relationship on a lie. Chances are, at 30-35, your husband isn't going to be a virgin either.
The only thing I can suggest would be to abstain from vaginal intercourse until you find Mr. Right.
2006-11-01 01:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Heath 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are too late for that, because honesty is paramount to a successful relationship. I found out years after the fact that my ex-wife had lied to me about her pre-marital sexual relationships, and it hurt worse than darn near anything else she did to me during our 12 year relationship. Hiding the truth for years cankered her soul and she chose to become very bitter because she doubted that I could love her because of the lie -- and then made damn sure that she did the rejecting first and all along the way. I do not think you want that path in front of you.
The best you can do now is to abstain from now until you are married, as mistakes that are way way in the past are easy to forgive, a pattern of bed-hopping that continues right up until you meet this future husband is not.
2006-11-01 02:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by HeartSpeaker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, do not start a marriage with a lie. You need to be honest with your future husband. Everyone has a past. It's what you are doing in the present to plan your future that matters. Marriage is built on honesty and trust. If your future husband loves you, he will appreciate your honesty.
2006-11-01 02:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In times past when it was totally required for a girl to be a virgin bride, they would do the following. First, douche with an alum and water mixture for tightness, right before bed. Take a small balloon filled with a teaspoon of chickens blood to bed to simulate loss of maidenhead. Copious amounts of alcohol to the bridegroom after the ceremony helped the illusion.
2006-11-01 02:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by brillantnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you are not a virgin but you want your husband to believe you are. Let me see a man can tell if you are a virgin or not. So the best to make him believe you are is not to do anything until you meet the right one so your pu**y whole can be tight that way he can say that he married a virgin.
2006-11-01 01:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Babtkat357 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to base your future marriage on a lie? That's never a good idea. I don't think anyone expects a 30 year old to be a virgin. He'd probably think there was something wrong with you.
2006-11-01 01:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by Steven S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to start out a life long commitment with a lie?!?
Hopefully within 5-10 years time you grow up!
2006-11-01 01:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know if anyone would want to marry a 30-35 year old virgin.
2006-11-01 02:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why lie? That is not a good way to start a marriage...it is too late to re-claim your virginity but you can hold off on sex until you are married.
2006-11-01 02:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont seem so experienced when you screw him. more than likely he isnt going to be one anyways but if he is going to be your husband you cant really build a relationship on lies. whether or not you are a virgin is important to certain people, it most likely wont be the fact that you arent a virgin, but the fact that you lied about it that will eat him the most. just tell the truth.....
2006-11-01 01:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by hatin_u_always 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋