Why do i still love him?

Question

Why is it easier for men to forget than women, how can they stop loving so easily yet it seems to take us a life time. How can I get over him and stop loving him?

Answer 1

I don't think they do, they just internalise it more than we do.

Answer 2

Men can find it easier to move on because if they loved you they'll always keep a little space in their heart for you.

I know that sounds corny, but that's what happens, it dose no good to just 'forget' someone you were fond of for a long time. That would be like forgetting a friend if they died rather than just grieving, an extreme example maybe but I'm sure you catch my drift.

And I'm sure all the 'All men are b*st*rds!' style comments that people seem to trot out at moments like this don't help because the fact is that most men are not, there are plenty of sensitive men out there and in any case if someone is having problems 'forgetting' a former partner it's unlikely he was that bad a person and they really miss them.

Answer 3

Okay, I totally understand what you are saying. I too had a very hard time forgetting an ex. You have to make a very conscious decision to forget him. Being in love is a lot like a habit or an addiction. You know how cows always follow these pathways when they walk to and from the stables? They can take any route they want, but they always end up doing the same old thing. Your mind works the same way. It constantly replays the being-in-love and not-being-able-to-forget thing for you. In other words, you constantly go down that little old pathway. It's a habit your mind developed and you have to break it. So when you find yourself going down that pathway, just force yourself to jump to another thought. Your mind cannot think more than one thought at the time, did you know that? So start thinking about tennis, for example. After you stop thinking about tennis, your mind would have probably have forgotten it was busy with the ex. When the thoughts about the ex come back, you again jump to something to distract yourself. Tennis. And so on and so on. It worked for me, hope it does for you too. Good luck.

Answer 4

It has been 5 years since I seen or heard from my first love. I think about him every day. I am engaged now. After I realized that I would more than likely never get over him, I decided to just try and live with it. For me, it worked. I have never been happier.

Go out for a weekend with your girlfriends...do something to get your mind completely off of him. Go to a bar and deliberately look at guys. Do it. That's what I did, and I felt sooo much better.

And remember, if you guys aren't together anymore, it obviously wasn't meant to be. There IS someone else out there for you.

Sit back, relax and enjoy life as it is. Go out and get a good Harlequin Blaze novel. That should help....Tori Carrington is the best when it comes to a broken heart. ;)

Good luck.

Answer 5

It will just take time. You'll get over him eventually.

I went through a similar thing a while ago, and its not ice. You don't think you'll get over that other person.

Also, its not that men forget easier, its just that they feel they have to put up this 'macho' exterior.

The rule of thumb that I go with (although this is a vast generalisation) is that I leave a month for every year we were together before I start seeing anybody else

Answer 6

Women are more sensitive and emotional.

These are the things I know women would do:

1)Got for a 1/2 tub of carte dor
2) Go for casual sex
3) Keep it inside
4) Do fun things they enjoy
5) Go on a hen night
6) Go find another stag
7) Fall for me
8) Burn every photo of ur ex

The idea is that whe u think about ur ex, the emotion ur feeling gets weaker and weaker, until u get to the pont where u 2 can still be friends.

Answer 7

Oh you poor thing! I am a man. I will never forget my childhood sweetheart when I saw her with another guy. It broke my heart. I have never managed to get over it although that was about a hundred years ago. Nevertheless, as everyone above says... life goes on. See? Men can be sensitive too!

Answer 8

hiya sweeteyes, speaking for myself i do find it hard to get over finishing wiv someone i love. i`m afraid there`s no quick fix for u. all i can say by my own experience is get urself out there and try to start enjoying ur life again though i know this will be hard for u as it is for most people. i promise u that in time u`ll be sooo much stronger for it. right now ur probably thinking u`ll never get over it but u will. wot u need is a hug and lots of sympathy......well i can give u sympathy but i can only give u an E-hug lol keep ur chin up babes lots of people here are thinking of u :)

Answer 9

First, women are on a diffirent emotional plane then men are. We commit a little to much. Were more into relationships then they are. We focus way to much and guys just know when to let things go. But honestly, if the guy cares, it is likly that they still have the feelings even when they move on, but they just don't focus on it. You need to continue on, just don't think about it. Yeah it takes awhile, but think of the things that would make you happy. That will help you when you move into another relationship. Just think, its his loss.

Answer 10

It will take time, I know it is hard but it will get easier. Men don't take as long to get over stuff because they have the attention span of a 1 year old.

Answer 11

Fixate your thoughts on someone or something else. The more time you spend thinking and doing other things, the less time you will have to dwell over him. Time is the only true healer and until it passes, you must occupy yourself. Men are like children so don't compare yourself to one. They have the sensitivity of a fly at times.