do you think it is right for you fiance/hubby/bf to watch porn and get off on it when you are in a happy, sex filled relationship? is this a form of cheating and are all men the same? what kicks do they get? does it mean they are not actually happy with the person they are with? any help would be greatful.
2006-11-01 01:35:15 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wrong, wrong and yes it is cheating it will destroy your marriage
2006-11-01 13:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by mrsturner2000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually it doesn't mean that they are not happy in the relationship that they currently are in. For some guys it's their form of getting off without having to actually get off with a live person. To me it is almost like they are toeing the line of what is cheating and what isn't. The watching of porn to a guy can be just as close to cheating without the touching. If you are in a relationship with someone who watches porn there are a few things you can do with it. First and foremost if this is something that bothers you go ahead and say so. Be forewarned though that some guys will not freely give up their porn for anyone. So if you do the Porn or me routine then be prepared if the guy picks the porn over you. Maybe see if this is a fantasy or kick that he likes to watch. Is there a sexual position that he favors that maybe you as a couple could try out? He might be watching porn because even though you may have a sex filled relationship there might be one fantasy that you as a couple don't do. If it is something that is painful though or looks like it could hurt you don't try it. This could be a darker fantasy that he may actually need to get help for. You say that your relationship is sex filled. Your significant other also may have a pure addiction to...yes...sex. If that is the case you will never ever get him to stop watching porn without the help of a therapist. Either way you go I wish you luck.
2006-11-01 01:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not right or wrong, different strokes for different folks. Do you both think you are in a happy sex filled relationship? If he isn't sneaking around to watch it what is the problem? Are you disgusted by seeing ot yourself? Many couples occasionally watch porn together and maintain a mutually happy sexual relationship. He may be wanting you to be a little more adventurous. Talk to him about it in an open honest way to understand his viewpoint. Don't do it is a negative or bible thumping manner. I really don't think you have a serious problem unless it has actually became an obsession with him and if it has you can work through it.
2006-11-01 02:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of right or wrong, the fact that your fiance'/husband/bf is watching porn and getting off on it will cause problems in your relationship. If not now, then down the road. The porn will over time make him want something different that he is not getting at home. It may be him wanting to add another person to your love life, it may make him dissatisfied with what he has at home. It is my honest belief that if a man is truly satisfied with his wife, gf or fiance' then he will not feel the need to look at other women or get any sexual gratification from them. On top of all that, he is sending a signal to you that what you have to offer is just not enough to satisfy him. Probably not intentional, but if a guy watching porn and getting off on porn does not make her feel inadequate, then maybe it is okay. Just by the very fact that you asked the question makes me think it does bother you and make you feel that way. Now is the time to talk with him about it and not several years down the road. It is addicting and damaging.
2006-11-01 01:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the porn is of consenting adults, etc and is not illegal, then I think it is fine.
Most guys, and some girls I know regularly enjoy and watch porn. When I found my fella stash, I asked him about it and the answer was "I'm looking after it for a friend" lol, like it was a goldfish or something. We had a lovely chat about it over a cup of tea and now we watch it together. It can be a turn on, but you have to be comfortable with it.
I don't think its a form of cheating, I know he still sometimes watches it on his own, the same as me, and I don't feel like I am cheating on him. He is everything I want and need, and from what he tells me, I am to him. We have been together 6 years have lived together for 4 of those years and are very much still in love. We both understand that every so often the urge comes along to have "a little me time"!
If it makes you uncomfortable you need to tell him, but you need to be able to accept the fact that if you don't do it with him, he can still do it behind your back!
Don't fret over it too much. Its nothing to do with you, its only an aid to make masturbation a bit more interesting!
2006-11-01 01:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not think it is wrong. I think it is just a point of watching someone else some peolpe get off on that No i do not think it is cheating if your watching it together nor do I think its cheating if your partner watches alone. I do think that most men enjoy Porn however not all mean do. It does not mean that you are not happy with a person it could mean that watching others is a turn on for your man or women. Personally I think it could add some spice to your lives.
2006-11-01 03:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine as long as both of you are happy with it. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with porn but if your fiance likes watching it and you object, then he should desist from watching it.
No - one needs porn. We just like it. We're visual. We get turned on by pictures.
It can hardly be called cheating, any moe than a woman using a dildo can.
A man who likes porn can still be happy in his relationship with his parter. If both partners enjoy the porn - and there is a lot of light, couple friendly stuff out there, then it can add a certain aspect to the relationship.
Most of us like porn. Lots of girls do too. You shouldn't feel intimidated by it, but if you object that much, then tell him the porn goes or he does. However, be prepared for him to say the same thing about your rampant rabbit...
2006-11-01 01:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Matt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you look like your avitar or are you unattractive in some sort of way? Does he find looking at other girls better than looking at you? Or is he just a dude who likes to see a whole bunch of differeent shapes and sizes of vaginas. I don't watch porn anymore because it is fake and the girls are clearly not enjoying it. It would be nice to see some real people in Love and having sex. But I guess they don't make stuff like that. I'd say burn all his tapes or DVDs and cancel the Internet and take all his money so he can't buy magazines because you can't control him. He's just gonna have to stop on his own and with the help of God. All you can do is try to stay sexualy attractive to him, and he's gonna have to appreciate what he's got. Once he realizes that a lot of dudes don't have a loyal Vagina to go into anytime they want, he'll be in it more often. It's all in the mind.
2006-11-01 01:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
everyone has their own opinion for this one, but for me, if my guy wanted to watch porn I don't have a problem with it, sometimes it can enhance a relationship. I don't think it is a form of cheating and no not all men are the same. They like this as it is a fantasy world, let him enjoy it, join in with him you might surprise yourself lol. and it has nothing to do with whether they are happy with the person they are with, chill out it will be fine
2006-11-01 01:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by janet t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that only men like to watch porn? How can it be deemed cheating exactly also? Personally I love it, for laughs and when you are feeling particularly horny. It can give you a few ideas to spice up your sex life also. Maybe you could do with some?
2006-11-01 02:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by rondavous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
porn is degrading,the women are whores doing it for the money.Most women are decent and want to make love with the partners not have sex.This portrayal is of lust,it is without feeling or onsideration just self gratification mainly for men,The porn industry makes billions from the weakness of men.The women that say it's okay or i like it are deluding themselves it's just a cop out so that there guy's think wow she's cool when really she so sad.I as a modern women answering this from my partners site-would rather brush toilets with a toothbrush than be used in such a degrading manner.
2006-11-01 07:18:02 · answer #11 · answered by PETER H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋