Is it better to tell your friend or not tell them if you find a revealing pick of them online?

Question

I was browsing drunk girl pics on a blog yesterday (What can I say.. I'm male, if I wasn't interested in that stuff I'd either be gay or dead) In the photo gallery I saw a nip slip picture of a friend of mine. My friend would neither knowingly allow a picture like this to be taken, nor allow it posted for public view online. It was obviously taken without her knowledge, and she was most likely unaware of the revealing possition of her tank top at the time.

I felt that as her friend I should tell her about the pic and send her a link to see for herself, However I am afraid it would be embarasing to hear about this from her male friend that she knows used to be crushing on her. I am probably one of the last people she would have wanted to see something like this. Damage is done as I emailed her about thislast night.. Did I do the right thing or should I have kept quiet about this?

Answer 1

She will obviously be embarrassed but she'll thank you for letting her know about it.

Answer 2

you did the right thing. maybe she will appreciate it, maybe she will be embarrassed, but at least you know it was right. doing the right thing is not always easy and doesn't always turn out good, but you still told her so that's good. I'm not the same way....besides friends, family, and girlfriends i don't usually do the right thing, just whatever fixes the problem. sorry thats just me

Answer 3

It depends on how close you are to your friend. If it were a close friend of mine, I would have told her so that she was aware of it and could take action and have the picture removed. Of course, as you wrote, it would be quite embarrassing.

Answer 4

You did the RIGHT thing. Crush or no crush, if it were me, I'd want to know. You are a great friend to let her know. I hope she knows that.