What's the difference between dating a girl and just going out as friends?
I keep going out with my close female friend, we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We also take roadtrips together to the coast and to the country for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us.This happens at least every 2 weeks, if not on a weekly basis. While we're out we flirt, tell each other everything, feel very comfortable with each other, sort of act as a couple....
I've noticed that she does not like it when I mention other girls that have caught my eye, she changes the subject ASAP. When I mention if she's interested in anyone, the answer is always no,she hasn't pulled anyone when out,etc...we kissed once after 1 night out(a few months bck) but nothing since,just keep meeting up,in constant touch etc
Would this be dating? What does my friend see this as? Is this a relationship,what type?
If this is a platonic bond, why can't I mention other girls?
2006-11-01 01:20:55 · 16 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Recently she thought that I started dating a girl and she practicaly ignored me for a week--was this jealousy or just a coincidence? My behaviour did not change towards her and I'm not actually dating anyone.
Also when I mention the topic of commitment and feelings she changes the topic and won't speak about it, even though I'm not referring to 'us'.Why? Also when I joked she had a new boyfriend she shouted down the phone "what f**king boyfriend!there's no one, I wish I had one,f**king hell". Why'd she get so angry?
We're meeting this wkn, should I say something, as I don't think this 'relationship' is normal or is it?
Advice appreciated
p.s after the kiss she said we should stay as we are, but I think the way we're carrying on is not good for us both-when I do try to mention about it going further possibly she refuses to speak about it.How can I mention it?
How can I suggest to go on a date, if we always go out together anyway?
2006-11-01 01:21:27 · update #1
She has told me before that she don't see me in that way-though she did say I'm attractive.Is she a c**k tease?
2006-11-01 01:36:06 · update #2
WOW! I think she loves you but knows so much about you and you about her that it's become too difficult to broach the subject of you two being a potential love match. I think you need to ask yourself do I love her in that way? If you do you've got to bite the bullet this weekend and ask her if she has feelings for you other than as a friend? Tell her you want a relationship with a girl and are confused as she seems like a friend most of the time but then when you discuss the subject of other women she doesnt seem able to ddeal with it. DO YOU LIKE HER????? i hope you do and that she feels the same and can finaly get the strength to let you know, some of the best relationships start with 2 people being friends first I think you 2 stand a fair chance of settling down together unless she is just a friend and a possessive one at that. If that is the cse you need to tell her you are interested in having agirlfriend and she needs to allow you to do this if she cant deal with that then you need to meet her a little bit less cos no girlfriend will put up with you having such a female possessive best mate! Good Luck!!
2006-11-01 01:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought about this one for a while, it sems by asking her face to face doesn't seem to be working so there is a simple answer, write her a letter.
Plan what your going to say, write it out in rough first and read it back a few times adjusting as you go.
Ask everything you want, tell her what you want, klet her know how you feel about her and you need to know how things stand.
Either you are a couple or your not, if not then she has to accept you seeing someone else.
There could be some commitment issues on her side, maybe she got her fingers burnt before and is worried she'll end up burnt again but that's not fair on you.
A letter is non confrontational, your not putting her on the spot, your giving her time ( a few days maybe) to think about your relationship before coming back to you when she's prepared and comfortable with what she has to say.
If you do this i would suggest you let her contact you or arrange to meet after a few days and then you'll know.
You can't go on for years in this half of a relationship.
2006-11-01 01:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can very much see that she is into you!! Sharing her emotions, etc. She likes you more than a friend!! Actually she's so into you that she could probably scream. I know men think differently than women and you usually have to tell them what is on your mind because they don't get hints but I think its pretty clear she is way into you.
I'm sure to her it is considered dating and when you are dating other people and your friend has a crush on you its just wrong to mention other women. I'd mention it to her though. Just nicely ask her if she really likes you as more than friends, and if she doesn't then she'll let you know but if she does she will let you know that too. You gotta be honest.
By the way some girls are old fashion and believe the guy should ask the girl out. I think thats the case with her.....
2006-11-01 01:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by alyssa_the_great21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like she likes you as more that a friend.
I did that to my best friend (now boyfriend) before we started dating. I hated when he taked about girls and how he wanted a real girl when I was standing right there! It can cause a lot of anger towards the other person. It hurt a lot but he didn't know.
Maybe she wants you to make the first real move.
About the dating part, thats pretty hard. I do know for sure but my boyfriend went along the regular hangouts. But there was more in it knowing it was a date and we kissed a lot more. And it worked for me.
2006-11-01 01:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by jussgee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was angry about the boyfriend thing cos she doesn't want to go out with anyone except you. She is frustrated that you haven't officially asked her out. What you are talking about is almost like dating but not completely in her view because otherwise she wouldn't have said 'I wish I had one' when you asked about the supposed boyfriend. You should definitely ask her out - it's clear from where I'm sitting that she wouldn't say no.
2006-11-01 01:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by h0axsp1d0r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 04:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no... this isnt good for you.. and you will never meet any girl while this is going on.. no girlfriend would get involved in this.. i certainly wouldnt.. my boyfriend has female friends as i do male but that my luv isnt normal behaviour.. you gota break free from this and fast.. talk to her and if she doesnt like it then is she that good a friend ? i dont think so... get it sorted sooner rather than later hun... x
2006-11-01 02:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by cathrin j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you guys are a couple. I think to clear up any confusion on both of your parts you should bring up what you want to know. Just ask bluntly "What are we?" Then tell her that you want to know and that you sometimes feel uncomfortable mentioning other girls around her. It should hopefully clear things up.
2006-11-01 01:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by spezlee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her outright, you are only here once. If she's not interested, tell her if she wants to stay friends she's got to be cool with you seeing other birds. If she is interested, go for it.
Or, just sleep with her, and then never call her again.
2006-11-01 01:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Shinny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds too me like she definatly has a thing for you, she may possibly not even realise it herself but there is definatly more in it for her than friends!
2006-11-01 01:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋