Hello ladies, just been out shopping today and virtually every women I walked past wouldnt make eye contact. They either looked away, or simply 'through' me as though I wasnt there.
Is this a bad sign, does it seem women dont find me physically attractive, or am i worrying unecessarily?
What do you do if you are walking past a bloke you find attractive?
2006-11-01 01:14:47 · 40 answers · asked by John F 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
"What do you do if you are walking past a bloke you find attractive?"
This is a question to ladies asking what you do in this situation.
Not asking for advice about how I should pick up blokes!!
2006-11-01 02:04:51 · update #1
Eye contact is a very personal thing. When you look into someone's eyes you connect with them.
As a woman, I also 'look through people' and 'avoid eye contact', because I don't want to connect to everyone I pass. Eye contact between women does not require as much protection normally.
Believe it or not, some men DO get the wrong idea if you make eye-contact with them. Some men are so needy of female attention that if you show that you are slightly aware of their existence, they latch onto it. It's happened to me in the past, which is why I'm just like those women you passed while you were shopping.
It does not reflect you as a person - but women have to be careful who they open up to - even if it is only through the media of the eye. You might not be a potential psycho, but there are plenty out there and a woman does not want to attract their attention or appear vulnerable.
2006-11-01 02:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're worrying for no reason. Women usually don't make eye contact with a man they find attractive when simply walking by. I'm not sure why they don't. Seems counterproductive to me if your interested, but that's just the way most women are. So them not making eye contact may very well be a compliment to you. If you're interested, strike up a conversation. This may break the ice.
Personally, if I find a man attractive that I walk by, I make eye contact and smile. That's me though and I'm not typical.
2006-11-01 01:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Oracle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to worry.. people, not just women, out shopping tend to be thinking should I have bought the pink or the blue...I didn't realise I was wearing the wrong bra size (that's the women by the way...not always mind you)...or I wonder if he'll /she'll ring tonight...worried about the kids...thinking about anything like work, family etc....you know, some people find eye contact with a stranger in the street a little intimidating. Personally if I like the look of someone I will have a sideways glance...maybe you just got an idea in your head and it escalated. DON'T PANIC !!!!
2006-11-01 01:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by minitheminx65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got too much time on your hands if you notice every woman's reaction to you! Maybe they all have places to go and aren't actually interesting in ogling every man that walks by! I think you're a bit full of yourself even posting this question if I'm honest, but I'll answer anyway now I'm here.
If I happen to see a stunningly attractive man, I will look...not stare, or turn...just look...and I'd do this with an equally attractive woman, or even attractive kids etc. Everyone else will just go past unnoticed by me, because I'm not on the lookout for a man, so therefore just have no interest in looking at every face I pass....let alone the time!
2006-11-01 01:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a number of things. You might make them feel uneasy, maybe you appear to be staring and it makes them uncomfortable, i've had it before, some men can really just stare and even if i look awqay, i look back and they are still staring. It aint too nice. They may feel embarassed, like they may not get a lot of attention and you just have so maybe they dont know what to do about it or are shy. Sometimes aswell though, if blokes I think sometimes, oh for gods sake just go away and stop looking.
2006-11-01 07:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by Carole T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I see a guy I find attractive I have a sneaky peek. Sometimes I'll look a bit longer to see if he notices and smiles perhaps. Although, the same could be said for a guy that is really odd looking......reckon I'd look too.
Maybe it's a risky thing to look at a guy straight in the eye, best to have a coy glance. After all there are some weirdos out there
2006-11-01 09:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by speedvixen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a shy person and rarely make eye contact with people when I'm on the street. If I see a handsome, "bloke" walking past me, I may look away. Even if he's so handsome, he'll blind me with his beauty! Don't take it personally. I wouldn't want a guy to think that because I didn't make eye contact with him, he thought there was something wrong with him. I'm sure you're fine!
2006-11-01 01:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by luvmuzik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be a little paranoid - women aren't always thinking of picking up men, especially if they are shopping - they are focusing on looking for sales!! if you walk past an attractive bloke give them a big smile and maintain eye contact - that should do it.
2006-11-01 01:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are staring them down, you might be making them nervous. And they might just look through you because their mind is elsewhere. They are daydreaming or thinking of work of something. So yeah, just stop worrying.
And when I walk past an attractive bloke, I will look him up and down and then look away, just before he catches me.
2006-11-01 14:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by Smo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you can see in all of these answers: Girls aren't as extroverted as guys are. I mean look at all the shy girls down there. Guys seem to be more out there. Have you ever noticed how if you pass a guy he'll say hi and be polite and stuff, but if you pass another girl at MOST there will be a swift smile and then continue walking. I
2006-11-01 02:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋