there's no one else? I've seen a lot of people who already have children (some about 9 and 12 years old) and then they marry each other in their late 30's-40's for example. Do they marry because they know that it's unlikely that they'll be anyone else out there that's better?
2006-11-01 01:13:50 · 18 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What rubbish !!
2006-11-01 01:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by IloveMarmite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I cant speak for everyone who got married after having children and living together for a long time. My husband and I lived together a number of years before we got married, and the reason we hadnt before was we were just too busy, not enough money to have the wedding we both wanted. We have 4 children between us, ranging from late teens to under 10, and their needs were more important than a wedding! We eventually got married when they were older, not because we figured no-one else would want us or we were not going to have a better offer!
We had a lovely day, and now 2 years on, we are very happy, nothing's changed at all, but we do have some lovely photos to look back on.
2006-11-01 01:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't necessarily say that because my husband and I had children before we got married. We have been together for 16 years but have only been married for 6. We bought our house first and worked hard to pay it off early. After our house was paid in full then we had the wedding that we wanted. I love my husband dearly and don't want anyone else. I am sure that some people get married because they don't feel that anyone else will better but not all.
2006-11-01 01:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only been married for a yr and i am 36. I have 3 children twin boys at 16 and a seven year old girl. I don't think that people get married because of there children although some of my friends have got pregnant and then felt that they have to get married, but not me i had always wanted my children to attend my wedding and to share the big day with both of us as it is so special. I never married my husband because i thought i couldn't get anyone else it was purley because i love him. He had been married before and i had been engaged 3 times before we met.
2006-11-01 08:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by eve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had two kids before we were married 2 years ago. We were both in our early twenties when we had them. I believe in my hearts of hearts had we gotten married then, we would not be together now- 10 1/2 yrs later. We love our children dearly and wouldn't change anything about our decision on having them. Time, maturity, and our love for one another were the major contributing factors on deciding to finally get married.
Since the nuptials, we have since added another child, 7 weeks old, and we are all doing well.
2006-11-01 02:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Deja' Vu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because if they have made it through having and raising children they can make it through anything. Many people are more afraid of failing at a marriage, than marriage itself, so they put marriage off. People often grow more in love as they mature, maybe they just feel ready later in life. I can't imagine that they are waiting for someone "better". What a terrible way to live!
2006-11-01 01:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would truly depend on the individuals, some marry because they have finally decided to mature and grow up and accept responsibility, some because it is the right thing to do, some because they are in love. You really cannot generalize why, it is a very individual decision. God bless
2006-11-01 01:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO THATS NOT TRUE, I'M A MOTHER OF 5 CHILDERN, 3 OF THEM ARE MINE THEN I HAVE A STEP SON THEN THERE IS OUR LIL GIRL THATS OURS, WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER 2YR AND JUST GOT MARRIED. I COULD OF MARRIED ANY OF THE OTHER GUYS BUT THEY WON'T RIGHT FOR ME SO I STAYED A SINGLE MOM UNTL I FOUND MY HUBBY NOW, SO FOR THE PEOPLE THAT MARRY FOR THAT REASON NEED NOT TO , IF THEY'RE NOT HAPPY, U SHOULD WAIT, THERE IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE SOME ONE OUT THERE TO BE YOUR LOVE....
2006-11-01 01:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by ickybones2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i'd say some people just dont have the money to marry. and other's just decide. they love each other that they dont want to be with anyone else.
2006-11-01 01:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by rah x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's because of the costs of weddings, when children are growing up the need everything and you're left with hardly ant monet to you'reself and when there older they need less so thats when they decide to get married. xx
2006-11-01 07:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Dreamah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because they want to simplify their lives. My wife and I only got married for tax reasons.
2006-11-01 01:17:14 · answer #11 · answered by C T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋