A delicate question, i believe that more people were abused as children than we realise?

Question

I know it's a hard question to answer and I dont want details a simple Y or N would surfice, sorry if i provoke bad memories, just want to see how many hits I get. I think people will be too scared to answer this, i know I am, peace out.

Brave people make me feel guilty, me it was a Y,

Answer 1

Yes. I agree with many of the others. Different children can react in different ways; some are more sensitive, a slap would affect them whereas others wouldn't be bothered. But I presume you're not talking about slaps. I think that sexual abuse was/is common; thankfully these things are coming into the open, people are listening.
One piece of advice to those (you?) who have suffered in this way - do NOT feel guilty that you let it happen/didn't speak up. They are the abuser. It's not your fault. You didn't encourage them. It's not your fault, OK? (crying now)

Answer 2

Yes...I think you are probably right...abuse can take many forms...some too horrific to contemplate and some mild but still damamging. Mental abuse or physical. My parents used to do community fostering for teenagers in residential care, some of the things that happened to those children are unbelievable. Personally I didn't come from an abusive home but for the number of children that my parents looked after I know it is a neverending horrendous situation that can take years to even patch up and in some cases the damage is so deep rooted some of the kids will never find peace.

Answer 3

Oh definatly. I live in Britain for the vast majority of our 'recent' history, weve been living with the de-humanising attitudes of the Victorians - Stiff upper lips, Boys dont cry, Get a Grip etc

It used to be a hidden pain, something families would deny, accept as part of family life or even approve of. Thank whatever Gods you want that its now seen as the Crime it is. Have you ever considered joining someone like Childline? The Full Stop? Both of these groups, and many more, have declared a war on the tyranny of family silence. Abuse is a cancer, it must be rooted out and destroyed whenever we encounter it

Peace guys

Answer 4

I think you are right, so many have already spoken out, but so many are still ashamed and keeping that secret. I also think talking about it helps. Keeping the secret just protects the guilty party.

The abuser in most cases is not the stranger in the dark - it's the guy or girl you trust your kids around. Good old uncle so&so or your best friend Bob or even the babysitter.

For me it was my Grandfather - the same great guy w/ the candy (it later turned to alcohol) who bought us a pony.

Answer 5

Define abuse.
What is now classed as abuse ie a slapped a**e if you step out of line was, when I was a kid, classed as disciplining. My butt got cracked numerous times thru my childhood for various offences but I tell you one thing, I only committed each offence once!
I know that I wasn't abused when I was a kid. I was disciplined, and taught right from wrong. A shame more kids aren't taught that nowadays.
Incidently it isnt that long since I was a kid. Im only 26

Answer 6

I'm not scared. I embrace what's happened in my past, because it's made me stronger as a person. It's also made me want to help people, and maybe prevent other children from going through what I did. As for my answer, yes.

Answer 7

Define abuse. Is a simple spanking abuse? Cerrtainly if it is done almost every day, yes, but once in a while, I donl;t think so

Answer 8

If smacking is abuse then yes. My mum used to smack the hell out of us. Unfortunately, it was how my mum's generation were raised. Everything was dealt with with a smack, slap or the belt.

Answer 9

Yes I was, my father was a psychopathic monster, he made my moms life hell and his kids were too terrified of him to challenge it because we knew what would happen to us if we did, thankfully you grow up and move on and never be their victims.

Answer 10

Absolutely YES!!!!