My wife and I have been getting in an arguement lately and I would like some outside input on it. I know this may seem stupid to the outsiders, but it keeps causing arguements with my wife and I. My parents are taking us to Hawaii next year for a vacation, which we cannot wait to do. However, we are argueing about what we wil be doing when we are there. Her idea of a vacation is relaxing on the beach, while mine is going out and exploring and seeing new things. The last 2 vacations we have gone on, we did do some exploring, but did a lot of laying around and relaxing. Now on this trip, she keeps saying how she cant wait to lay around on the beach, when i want to go and explore and see new things. She says she just wants a couple of days there, we will be there for 10, to lay around and get sun, and we can do stuff the rest of the days. But all she talks about is laying around, and it kinda bugs me. Am I being stupid?
2006-11-01 01:00:52 · 3 answers · asked by tmess9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you are being stupid. She is just wanting to relax. It does not sound like she wants to keep you from doing what you want to do. Give her the couple of days and when y'all are not relaxing then go site seeing. Y'all are going to be there for 10 days!!! That's is enough time for you both to do what you want!!
2006-11-01 01:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Shaunna H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being stupid but neither is she. You both have not found a balance. I would say you should both spend some time doing what the other wants to do and do what you want to do on your own. If you have 10 days in Hawaii dont spend them arguing with each other, enjoy them. Its Hawaii! Plus 10 days is enough time to do both. I dont know your wife but if her job is more mentally stressing than yours maybe she needs the rest for a few days and then go explore and then rest again so she can feel refreshed for work. Give and take thats what any relationship is all about. I would map out a plan if I were the both of you but thats me plan everything. If she spends 3 days laying around and then goes to explore with you for 3 days takes a day off then one more with you and then 2 days to unwind again then you have not only mixed it up but you both got what you want. Some people say they need a vacation from their vacation and I do understand that, some times when you take a trip and its packed full of running here and doing this and go, go , go it gets hard to relax and enjoy the true time off. I think this maybe how she feels. I also understand your need to do something because I hate to go some where and only see the inside of the hotel and its pool. Maybe it would also help if you found relaxing this to do together as well. I know they have spas and riding tours and things that are low key fun. Like I said mix it up. Enjoy Hawaii man!
2006-11-01 01:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKattsMeow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - stupid waste of breathe arguing about something so menial. 10 days is plenty of time to do both. If you guys are not more flexible, your relationship will suffer for it. Hawaii has so much to see you will adore it. I am not sure who needs to compromise more you or your wife but you guys need to find a happy medium or your gonna be arguing about who shuts the light off at night before you know it. BE HAPPY!! LIFE IS TOO SHORT!!
2006-11-01 01:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋