This is for the moms of todays society!?

Question

As a mother and maybe even as a sister growing up, have you ever caught your son and/or brother masturbating? And honestly how did you handle it! Did you sit down and openly talk! Did you never say anything, leaving all to wonder and be uncomfortable! This issue I know has come up before but would like some more advise! If the answers cant be posted send me an email, so at least i get a true response, Tks

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Answer 1

Hmm...a very uncomfortable subject in general with your children. I have a 14 year old son and I have talked to him about sex and made it clear that he can always ask me questions and that from time to time I will be checking in with him on the subject so that he doesn't have to come to me and ask.

As for masturbation, I don't know that I would be direct about it. Other than to say look I saw something and it is perfectly normal but you should be careful and protect your privacy.

I am however very careful about barging in. I always knock as I know my son is at that age and wouldn't want to make the subject anymore uncomfortable than it has to be.

Answer 2

No I have not caught my son/brother masterbateing. But if I did catch my son doing it, I would wait a day and than talk to him about it. I'd say I saw you masterbating the other day, and I was wondering if you'd like to talk about it? Tell him it's normal to do that, but when he does it you'd appreshiate it if he does it in his room or the bathroom and lock the door. Ask him if he has any questions he may want to ask you about it, and than just tell him that you are there for him if he may have any questions about any thing. Let him know that you are there for him and will tell him the truth no matter what the question is. And tell him you love him still and give him hugs.

Answer 3

I haven't actually seen my son do it, but we have talked and he has told me that he does. He is 13 and he says that he has done it a few times. I don't think that it's a big deal. I talk openly and honestly with my children about sex and as of today my daughters ages 16, 14, 12 are still virgins. My children and I have a very open relationship. I rather that they come to me with their concerns, questions and comments because I have seen what can happen when parents are afraid to talk to their children about sex.

Answer 4

I caught my son a couple weeks back. I closed the door and waited for him to come out of his room. I sat him down later that evening and talked to him in private. I told him it was normal and that it is nothing to be ashamed of. That he was growing up and that it is part of growing up. We talked very openly and any questions he had about sex, growing up, urges, etc. I answered as honestly and openly as I could. The only things I told him, that might be considered negative, was he was responsible for washing his own sheets.

Answer 5

I caught my 9 year old son once, and when I walked in and saw what he was doing I immediatley said " When you are finished, please wash your hands and come to the table so that we can have a little talk."

He came to the table a little embarassed, but I made sure that the first thing I said to him was " This isn't going to be a bad talk and I'm not punishing you. I just want to talk to you a little bit about what you were doing."

And, knowing that he wasn't in trouble, he was more willing to talk to me, and I was prepared to talk to him, and answer any questions he had openly and honestly.

We talked about what he did and I made sure to tell him that it was normal, healthy and there was nothing wrong with it, but I also made sure that he knew it was something to be done in private. We talked a little about sex, but he wasn't really interested or ready for that. He was just masterbating because it felt good.

So, we ended our little talk, and I think that when he is ready to know about sex, and other things, he will come to me, because he knows that I will be open and honest and not condemn him for being a normal boy.

Answer 6

If it were my brother (I don't have one, but hypothetically) I would say, "Excuse me," and leave the room. I'd probably apologize later for not having knocked or whatever and tell him it's not a big deal and I'm not upset and I hope he isn't either.

If it were my child, I'd do the same thing, but later I'd tell my child that it was a perfectly natural thing to do. I'd also realize that if I hadn't already had "the talk" with him or her that it was definitely time.

The most important thing to me would be to apologize for having intruded on something personal and to let my loved one know that there's nothing shameful about what they were doing. I'd tell them that I'd be more careful in the future and more aware of the personal space that they need.

Answer 7

Congrats!!!! your young man is growing up. This is something that ALL males do its ok but as the moms we not like it. buy all means sit down with him and let him know that if that is something that he is doing he needs to take care of himself. talking to him or finding an adult to speak to him might help too. ( but one that you trust will tell him the truth about sex)
My sons and nephews think that I 'm CRAZY to talk to them about it but i just let them know that i love them anyway and that if i feel that there is questions or answers that they want to ask me about (sex) or anything i here to listen and give answers.
Take Care it will be o.k. :-)

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Answer 8

Congrats!!!! your young man is growing up. This is something that ALL males do its ok but as the moms we not like it. buy all means sit down with him and let him know that if that is something that he is doing he needs to take care of himself. talking to him or finding an adult to speak to him might help too. ( but one that you trust will tell him the truth about sex)
My sons and nephews think that I 'm CRAZY to talk to them about it but i just let them know that i love them anyway and that if i feel that there is questions or answers that they want to ask me about (sex) or anything i here to listen and give answers.
Take Care it will be o.k. :-)