2006-11-01 00:34:11 · 22 answers · asked by Laurie D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know what holiday has to do with it. Sure, former family groups should get together, minus all the step siblings and new spouses, now and then. But it might be a bad idea to have the new spouse and the old spouse together at the same table, if it would remind anyone of previous unpleasantness.
2006-11-01 00:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kind of ify. Most children want their parents togerther no matter what and to have such events may give the children false hope that the parents may get back together. Also, if you are seeing someone, that person, should you do this, be invited and have a voice in the matter. If you are seeing someone and that person goes to the holiday dinner with you, it may not be as confusing for the children. They may ( hopefully ) think, mom and dad are not going to get back together but this is cool that we can all have dinner together. Happy Holidays
2006-11-01 03:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the children are those of the past union of the woman and the ex in question I think yes. I also think it's important to a certain extent that they do. it shows the kids that adults may have differences and no longer want to live together, but they can still be civil and friendly with each other.
2006-11-01 00:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe that this is a good thing to do for the children. But I only advise you to do this if you and your ex are able to be civil with one another long enough to get through the meal. It would be more harmful than helpful for you parents to have an explosion at the dinner.
2006-11-01 00:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by PRL8268 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the individual couple. If the divorce was messy and there is a good chance that there will be a fight then it is NOT in the best interest of the kids to be together.
If you can be civil then it would be ok. Don't get the kids hope up that you will be getting back together though if there is no chance.
2006-11-01 01:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i think if the ex's want the kids for holidays then they should make those plans well in advance of the holidays. I never did this. I think the meals should be seperate. Good luck and god bless.
2006-11-01 01:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It totally depends on her relationship with her ex. If she and her ex get along and she feels comfortable with it then it's fine. If she and the ex don't get along, then why should she put herself and her kids through that? If the kids are young, then it needs to be determined in the divorce which parent the kids spend which holiday with. If they are older, then allow them to have input into it.
2006-11-01 00:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents divorced when my sister and I were preteens and for many years we often celebrated holidays with both parents even though they were not together anymore, they couldnt be married to each other anymore, but continued and continue to be friends almost 30 years later, so as long as everyone gets along I see nothing wrong with enjoying the holidays together.
2006-11-01 03:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Iluvtedebears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you feel comfortable with it and it is not going to cause a conflict with the person you are seeing at the time.And it depends if kids are involved or not and how old the kids are becasue they might get the wrong impression.I haven't been doing that with my ex.
2006-11-01 00:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by jeff402006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if they get along with their ex. I would have done it if my ex would have asked, but he is still a very bitter man after 3 years.
2006-11-01 00:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋