I had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago at 7 weeks pregnant.?

Question

I have four other daughters from my previous marriage. This would have been my first child with my new husband. We have been absolutely devastated, but have been told since this is my first miscarriage I should be able to have a good shot at another pregnancy with no problems. My question is how can I reconnect with my husband? He is being so loving and supportive and eager to try again when the doctor says we can, I on the other hand feel so withdrawn and depressed that I actually have drifted away emotionally from my husband. He tries to understand my moods and tries to get me to talk and feel better. but for some reason I resist his efforts. We recently moved to a new state (KY) and all our family and friends are over eight hours away.
Has this happened to any of you?

Answer 1

it's not unusual for you to feel the way that you! It's good that he's there for you and you should try to talk about it, but make sure it's on your own time! Also, be sure to have to grieve before trying again! I understand how you feel because I've had 2 within the last 3.5 months! God knows best and miscarriages are his way of saying that things weren't right with the baby and He needed another angel to watch over you and your family! Sorry for your loss!

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www.ispokewithmychild.com

Answer 2

First of all, I extend my deepest sympathy to you in your loss. It has never happened to me so I have no idea what you are truly going through.

You have a lot of things going FOR you. Four (presumably) healthy daughters. A loving husband. It is unfortunate that you now live so far from friends and family. Is there anyone you can talk to at all? Can you ask your Doctor about a support group? You minister? Maybe the hospital near you can suggest someone or a group for you to talk to.

I think, my suggestion is, you should get outside help before it gets worse not only for you and your hubby's; sake but for your girls as well. I am sure you are going through a natural grieving process but I also think you need an outside boost to move on from it. I won't say "get over it" because you won't but I think you need to try to move on.

God Bless you and your family and I hope things get better for you soon. You made me cry and I will really be thinking about you!

Answer 3

Miscarriage occurs mainly since of genetic disorders with the fetus or different clinical explanations, no longer since of something you probably did or did not do. I have in no way heard of any individual having a miscarriage since of sitting down an excessive amount of, and that's terrible that your "buddy" could even propose the sort of factor. Most men and women who paintings sit down down for as much as eight hours for the period of the day five days per week and this isn't associated with miscarriage. Unfortunately you may also in no way recognize why, however roughly a million in four pregnancies lead to miscarriage, so suppose heartened that you are no longer by myself. There is not any purpose why you could not get pregnant once more and feature a healthful little one.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss, I have four beautiful healthy children, inbetween the first and second I also had a miscarraige, to make things worse: I was told the baby had died at six weeks, into development, I have the ultrasound picture in my photo album, I had to carry the dead fetus for five days knowing it would happen, it was devasting, that being said, I became pregnant shortly thereafter, and I can't imagine my life without
my daughter, who would not be here, had it not been for the loss
of my other child, so I have to accept the fact the for whatever reason, GOD knows what is best. YOU will never forget your lost

Answer 5

Hello there! We share the same grief. You are perfectly normal. You are going through (both of you must do this)...the 5 stages of grief:
1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining - if only I did that, this would not have happened, you know the next time, if only....
4. Depression
5. Acceptance. You cannot get through acceptance if you don't go through all 5 stages, and they hit at any time....and yes it lasts a lifetime...but does get easier with time and acceptance of yourself, and of course love, lots of love.

Every time you have a loss (child, family member, job, changing homes, moving.....you have the emotional roller coaster).

Feel better that you are working through the five stages of grief. Men and women work through them differently and some cry in the shadows and some cry in the shower.

I lost my first daughter, and I learned from Compassionate Friends (it's online now) of Valley Forge, Pa how to say ....face it, my daughter was stillborn at 7 months in 1988. I had to learn how to say it without crying...and everyone there had a loss of a love.
Some say forget it, but not anyone from Compassionate Friends would ever say that....You are a mom forever because I believe children ..at the very least their spirit..exists from conception regardless of the outcome.
Some children are lost in a car accident 20 year later. We do not love any child or relative less. Love is!
.....This broke my heart.
The next year I had my only surviving child ..again at 7 months, and in 9 days she will be 17!

Answer 6

Nope not to me but I think you need to reconnect with your husband somehow. I'm not saying to have a sexual relationship with him yet (you may not get to that point until your wounds are healed) but I'm talking about spending some time together like you did while you were dating before you got married.

Answer 7

Just tell him you need a little more time. You're sad that you lost a baby, he's sad about that too, but relieved he didn't lose you too. You need to give yourself time to grieve right now. You'll know when the time is right to try again. Good Luck

Answer 8

you have to work thru the mourning for the dead child. ask your husband to be patient while you do this.