Im confused... I really want to know what you all think. It's been bother me for 2 years. I'm going to be brutally honest here. So please hear my story.
I'm an adult comes from a loving family, I have group of supportive friends, and a nice girlfirend. On the outside I'm a happy go lucky kinda guy. You know, the go-to guy at work, friendly neighbor type of person.
However... deep down I don't like to work and I don't like to help others. I don't trust anyone either. I think people do things for self-grtifying reasons anyway... even when share, contribute, and love.
I'm tired of putting up a front everyday and I want to tell the whole world just to leave me alone.
But I can't. I feel like I have social responsibilities to be "nice". I feel like I could burst. It's getting more difficult for me each day. I want to ditch everything and just disappear.
Am I a bad person?
2006-11-01 00:05:24 · 22 answers · asked by Victorious Secret 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, I think you've just got yourself spread out so thin. Stop taking on so many responsibilities, and learn to say no. I know, easier said than done, but you have to give yourself a break. No one is Superman!
2006-11-01 00:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by liberpez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone goes through those kind of feelings, especially when the workload is too great and the family expects you to be the strongest one and the one that everyone releys on. These feeling don't last forever, but if they do seem to be too much and you can't seem to shake them then you need to get some help, find someone to talk to and you should tell your girlfriend that you are going through something, on the otherhand, if you really hate your job, you should look for another one, I hated my job for years and it was making me very depressed about my whole life and I was turning into a nasty person inside. I now have a great job a new man and I am in love with the world. Everything changed when my job did.
Good luck and don't give up.
2006-11-01 00:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Minustone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that its a matter of you not liking to be nice or go to work. It could be that at some point you were hurt in a way that you fronted the attitude that it didn't bother you or hurt you. and in round about ways you may feel as though your be used taken advantage of or something of the nature.
Do you have faith in god? If so pray to give you strength and not feel negitive towards others.
If you don't try to find it.
I think from a stand point many people evaluate their lives and feel that something is missing a naging feeling and becasue it surrounded by confusion and all people can't pinpoint it and make mistakes in things that they do or how they act because of this uncertainty and empty feeling a longing or what have.
Hope all works out for you and that you don't give up the Good nature do to a saddness that grows.
Open yourself up to your friends family girlfriend.
2006-11-01 00:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person. Its seems your doing everything to please everyone else and your doing nothing to please yourself. You need to stop and rethink what it is you want in life. This could be self destructive because eventually you will "burst" and have many regrets which is not being fair to yourself. Once you find what it is that makes you happy, that makes you honestly and truly care about what you want; then and only then should you give of yourself to others. To do so much for others might actually be your calling, so find one charity or one person to put your effort into.
The idea of giving to charity and helping others is not for instant gratification or getting something in return it comes from the heart and if its not coming from the heart its selfish and you are right people are not nice, its up to you to put yourself with good people if you seek them out they will find you.
Good luck and GOD Bless!
2006-11-01 00:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You certainly NOT a bad person. We all have thoughts like yours and even much worse. We all have to put up a front so we don't wind up in jail. It seems to me that you have to have something to let all that pent up anger in you. Maybe karate classes. Something to let that energy out. If people only knew went on in my head they would be shocked. I am a 55 year old mother of 3 and grandmother of 3. To others I look like the typical person. But believe me, there have been times where I actually have had physical fights with other people even at this age. When I tell my "fighting" story to others they can't believe it. So see, we all have these things going on in our minds,
2006-11-01 00:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by Corina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a bad person but what I would look at is why you feel you have to cover your true feelings basically you are lying to yourself. Why go through the motions if its not real. You also sound like your depressed. Everyone gets like that where you just want to throw the towel in but I would suggest you seek some help with your feelings.
2006-11-01 00:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a bad person, but an honest one. Now that you have felt your true feelings, it's time to deal with them. You are a people pleaser, and you just have to slow down, and start saying "no". I believe your feelings also come from your own experiences. When was the last time you did something for yourself? It's time. Trust me, do it and you will have a new perspective.
2006-11-01 00:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i do no longer know perhaps the devil could have a heat place for you once you die hell would not appear like a bad place if devil will save you warmth i'm in basic terms guessing right here btw 666 is an quite good selection
2016-10-21 02:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know your not a bad person, but you should say the way you feel. Just like you have done here, if you keep going the way you are your feeling will burst and you may take it out on the wrong person, problems don't disappear, but they can get worse. So get it out of you go on have a real mad mad day
2006-11-01 00:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you said you are a bad person, but what do you like best, bad or good, choose between the 2 and look deep and think deeper and remeber the times when you helped people, then you will know the answer. because we all have diffrent personalities, there is no such thing as we have the same personality, everyone thinks and deals with situations differently. soo think deep and you will know the answer to you question.
good luck
2006-11-01 00:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by kimzzooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, and do , tell the world to leave you alone, you will feel like thousand pounds have been lifted, there are too many fake people in this sad little world, just be honest ! the truth hurts , but i would reather have a little pain then lies
2006-11-01 00:17:05 · answer #11 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋