2006-11-01 00:03:11 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
1st i woukd like to say congratulations, there are many but few who will come to a wonderful life changing road that you have come to, some like me,who are happily married but are unable to concieve a child ,no one is ever fully ready for a child that was not planned for yet this is something that defines both of you, let him know and that will only dertermine if he is man enough to stand up for his own responsibility. there is always a plan, and a blessing even in times when one feels they have been cursed. embrace this priceless gift and take care of that wonderful soul growing inside you, either with or without him, you will only find that it was worth it when you see baby's 1st smile.
any man can make a baby, but it takes a real man to be a father....
good luck sweetheart
2006-11-01 00:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Thang 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear friend
If at all you want to associate be associate with the truth which only exists.
1) Its your duty to tell him since you had spend all the good and tough days with him. May be he feel happy or distress but face it.
2) Any testing is accomplished after made on practical basis. Hence indirectly you got a golden opportunity to test the friendship, if he fails or tries to settle this problem politically, emotionally or skip the responsibility from his part 'THEN FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND IN DEED' then you better try your own way. Atleast you should feel happy that you realized the truth.
3) I wont advise you to go for pregnancy if he dont accept the birth. Because in future it would be difficult to get the opportunity to become mother for a abortioned mom.
take care
best regds
2006-11-01 08:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by srijith_s_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to tell him if you want to spend your life with him. The longer you leave it the worse it might get too. If you think he will hurt you or the baby if you tell him then get out now!!!
Try and find someone close to you who you can trust and tell. That way it will take a bit of the weight from your shoulders!
Sometimes we are not ready for the things that life throws at us, but if your boyfriend is any kind of man he will understand and help you through whatever you decide to do!
Good luck. I'll be thinking of you!
2006-11-01 08:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Little miss naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have to tell him because if you wait too late and he finds out that you knew for a long time he is going to be upset. Just sit him down and break the news to him, he will grow to love the fact that he is going to be a "Daddy" have a daddy's little boy or a daddy's little girl. If he leaves you then he isn't worth your guys time and love. Trust me I know. I was with a guy when I was 14 years old until I was 20 and I got pregnant when I was 19 yrs old after he find out he was excited and was there to cut the cord after she was born...then the day after she was born when it was time for her and I to go home and fill all the paper work out he refused to sign the birth certificate...then he came by 3 other times after we were home and she is now 3 years old, but when she was 1 yrs old I met a WONDERFUL guy that wanted her and me and we are now married and have a child together getting ready to have another one....So if he wants to be with you that's wonderful if not don't think there isn't someone else out there that will love you both!!! I hope this helps and good luck to you and your little one.
2006-11-01 08:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Chandra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him all in one breath and be prepared for him to be shocked and say some unexpected things. Not all guys have the happy reaction we would like them to have when they first learn they will be fathers, but allow him time to let the news sink in and for him to decide how he would like to proceed.
It might take an hour, a day, a week or a month, for him to decide that he is comfortable and looking forward to the next step of the journey of life.
The sooner you tell him the better, as it allows him time to deal with it. Also he may take it better than you think and even be hurt that you didn't tell him sooner.
2006-11-01 08:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by Netto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I have to ask why you are scared to tell him? If you're scared because he may hurt you or the baby, then contact a counselor and discuss what's going on with them. You're going to need some extra support to make the right decision.
If you're scared because it's just nerves, you need to find a way to sit him down and tell him. You have both been having unprotected sex and this is the consequence of it. You can't not tell him, he will eventually find out. If you feel like you need extra support here, you may want to get a counselor or your mom involved.
2006-11-01 08:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by leannainpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant understand why your boyfriend would not be ready to have a kid, Just because he will have to pay for the rest of his life$$$$$. I am sure he will like it once you tell him and he will want to run right out and marry you and suport you with the high paying job he has now so I would tell him.After all, thats what us guys are for. And he can allways get 3 full time jobs hes young!
2006-11-01 08:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lots of money but no sense 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your boyfriend then you both should have enough connection that you can tell him anything. Its 1/2 his responsibility. Tell him and go shopping together and buy a playpen. Its your little baby in there just waiting to pop out
and say goo goo.... It will end up being a blessing. When the
baby gets to be about 9 months old it will be so cute and the
baby will get really excited when you walk in the door. You will
think to yourself, how did I ever live my life before without you.
2006-11-01 08:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think u should be honest with him i mean if i had a boyfriend and if he got me pregnant i would tell him be honest its better that way trust me i know u might be a little scared into telling him maybe sit him down on a couch or something and just say hun there is osmething really important i have to tell you then go from there i hope that helps
2006-11-01 08:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by intrested 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, that's a real life growing inside you, whether or not you think he's "ready". Tell him, and if he can't cope with it and leaves you, well you need to rely on family and friends to support you through this. Don't let him make you feel bad about your pregnancy its a real baby and he/she deserves your love. try not to stress just get it out in the open. Your partner deserves to know cos its his child too. Good luck, wishing you a safe and healthy pregnancy.
2006-11-01 08:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Bexx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋