Decided to divorce her. I've been a Mr. Mom and she's been the sole supporter to this family. He's cut off all my credit cards and has completely pulled herself away. i sent her separation papers. And she came unglued and said she wanted everything. I've never known someone to be so mean. I guess she thought after six months she could just come back like nothing has happened. I've moved on with my life. We have so many assets I know it's gonna be a battle is there any suggestions. She has left and started a new life. For no reason will I guess she was just board. It's been very hard getting back on my feet. I've decided I want everything possible as I feels she has abandoned us It's not just me our kids have been left to their both adults just starting out and her being the sole supporter. we've all had hard times without warning this happened two days after my 24th anniversary I would always love her but I no longer even know who she's become is a wrong to want revenge.
2006-10-31 23:47:05 · 25 answers · asked by unsure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to get a lawyer. She abandoned you and because she brought in all of the money, you are financially dependant upon her there-fore have rights to get paid by her. Alamony, spousal support. With the proper lawyer, you can get the money that you need.
Wanting revenge is natural but deffinately not the key. You want to look as neutral as possible and getting revenge just makes things worse. However, seeking financial assistance from your wife is what you have rights to.....
Don't sit around and wonder why.....get moving.....as you said, move on. Make it clear to her that there is no coming back...she made her decision and now must live with the outcome.
2006-10-31 23:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lynda H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree but getting anything from a woman especially through the courts is hard. It's seems that no matter what the woman is always right. Hell I've seen a confessed crack ho get full custody over a factory dad here in Indiana. As long as she had an income and could pay her bills the courts didn't care at all where the money came from. If they asked for a drug test she would hide out for 30 days until she was clean. It really is sad but guys basically have no rights especially in a divorce. All she has to say is she never abandonded you that she stayed in contact and the courts will back her 100%.
2006-10-31 23:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is no wrong for wanting revenge. It is only natural. But your wife left for a reason you just do not know what it is. At this time it really doesn't matter because she is gone. Your children are grown and they need to focus on their own lives and not you and your wife. You need to find peace with the hold thing. Talk to your lawyer for what you can do legally. But just get over it and find forgiveness and peace. If you continue to hold on to anger it will only eat you up and make you miserable. In time things will not seem so bad. Focus on you and your needs and not hers. She has moved on. And so should you. But remember fighting fire with fire causes someone to get burned and it may be you that gets it. Hold your head up and be encouraged. Think of you blessings and be grateful for those. The rest will follow.
2006-11-01 00:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by mksgna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say where you live and different areas/states/countries are subject to different laws. In my native England solicitors are required to hold all client's funds in a separate account reserved for this purpose only. Your first action should be to send, by registered mail, a letter requesting full payment of all funds relating to your legacy which are outstanding to you within 14 days of the date of your letter, failing full payment a statement of account indicating the exact amount involved and the reasons for their failure to make payment. If this does not bring a satisfactory result within the time you indicated you should take the matter to The Law Society in England or your state Bar Association in the States requesting that they look into the matter for you. Dealing with lawyers can be a long and frustrating process as they are trained masters of deviousness and procrastination but don't give up. Good luck. P.S. I have just woken up and seen the pounds sign in front of the figures so you must be in the U.K. - sorry.
2016-03-19 02:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife will not get everything in this equation!-----You on the other 1/2 will be entitled to more of the share of the pie than she will. She abandonned the children and you. spousal support and child support (if the kids are young) Since these children are not youngsters and more than likely over 18 ....You will be entitled to maintenance for your support----ARE YOU WORKING? DISABLED?
Since you state she was the sole supporter----why weren't you working to help in the financial end of your marriage? If you're disabled that is one thing but if you're just lazy and choose not to work that's another-
Your wife sounds to me like she's had a mid-life crisis----and after 6 months she is comfortable living on her own.
Divorce---split your sheets---and be done with everything!
2006-10-31 23:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first let me apologise for this I will tell you what you need to know ( not what you want to hear) people are different and you can't change them. she has been telling herself how unhappy she is for some time and set the goal of just raising the kids then she will leave. probably did it years ago. and there's no changing the deeply ingrained thought for her. even if you work it out she will still be unhappy and therefore you will be unhappy. move on and let it go (yea i know its hard to do you will have to figure out what to do but Friends and the kids will help).and for your own peace of mind forgive her ( and maybe feel sorry for her) and remember this its all on her . It's not your fault at all she has to work this out on her own terms and live with her decision and that's the only revenge you get. take what you get and don't ruin your life trying to prove you were right it's a waste of time . sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear and I hope it helps a little I will pray for you.
2006-11-01 00:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by L. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know why your wife decided to leave but I'm sure she had "reasons", even if she won't tell you what they are.
Divorce is never easy and you need an attorney to advise you, they can tell you what you are entitled to in the state where you live.
I can certainly understand your anger and hurt but "revenge" isn't going to help you or your children. Talk to an attorney and go from there.
I wish you and your children all the best.
2006-11-01 00:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat but don't worry she'll get what's comming to her.I have friends who this has happend to also and it's wierd but there wives all had cancer develope in some form or another. My wife left my children and me for a the one person on this earth I despise the most .She'll get whats comming to her.
2006-11-01 01:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by israel g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad story. You have to maintain your sanity.
Get a good divorce lawyer. She will indeed want everything.
Do not touch her or allow her to get under your skin. The similar situation happened to my best friend and he made the mistake of letting her egg him on. Ultimately he smacked her, and she kept berating him. He hit her again and again...she did indeed get everything and he's serving 3 years in jail. He gets nothing when he gets out.
She's a *****.
2006-10-31 23:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by Robbie trd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its okay to want revenge and I would get revenge..BUT thats me and its a part of who I am...are you the type? In any event what you need, like everyone is saying is a lawyer and it just makes since to try to be reasonable because in the end NO ONE ends up with everything. G'luck
2006-11-01 00:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋