Its a guy she works with, and she said that she wants to be with me, and that she isnt going to talk to this guy anymore, but then I'll catch her again. I'm not the jealous type, but the stuff I have heard them talking about isn't innocent. The only reason I am still with her at this point is my 15 month old son. I guess the real question is,"When is too much too much"?
2006-10-31 23:38:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Too much is too much when it's bothering the other person and clearly it is bothering you. Tell her again really clearly how you feel and what your intentions are if it is found that she continues doing this. If it hurts you, you need to stand up for yourself. Coming from a divorced family, I would just like to tell you that children can be just as scarred for having parents stay together who don't want to be. Sometimes divorced parents are happy parents, and I'm not suggesting you get a divorce, but I just want you to think about your son's best interests too, and just because you are with your wife does not mean it's better for your son if you two are unhappy. So talk it out with her...if she continues, it's obvious she is only thinking of herself and you don't need to be with someone like that anyway. Good luck to you and your family.
2006-10-31 23:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a 15-month old son in the middle makes everything more difficult. I know exactly what you feel. My son is 16 months and when he was only a few months old, my wife and I were having so many problems that I wanted to leave, but I stayed to be around my son. I can't tell you what to do with your wife, but I have never tolerated cheating and it sounds like she is being very disrespectful to you by what she is doing. I would give her an ultimatum that if she doesn't stop this disrespectful act, then a separation or divorce is possible. You can always get partial custody of your son. If he is a co-worker of your wife, she already can talk to him at work. There is no reason for her to carry on conversations, especially inappropriate conversations on the phone.
2006-11-01 07:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you leave her because she is talking to another man? Are you maybe upset because she might find something in him she likes? Sounds really odd to me, how can she stop talking to him if she hasn't done anything wrong to you? Too many questions, only you can answer this one,just don't be jealous she talks to someone else. Just love her and support her as a husband should.Stay Strong
2006-11-01 07:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Punky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People make fun of me & call me jealous and all .I go through that with my husband :mostly in the past but I think he may have changed a lil bit. She knows she is wrong for what she is doing & I hate to say leave because you guys have started a family . maybe what you need to do is get her ,the man,& you all together & get to the bottom of this. I hope that it works & you may want to look into are you the baby's father. Just to be safe.
2006-11-01 07:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much is when she started emotionally leaving you out of her life. Take your son and leave with the thought provoking question to her as you are going out the door "Do you want him, or do you want your son?". Bet ya the convo's behind your back will end quickly enough. And yes, men can / will get custody of their children, more and more every day this is happening so don't stay because of your son, take him with you when you walk.
2006-11-01 07:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to give your wife an Ultimatum, tell her it's her choice either she stops or the marriage is over. Staying for your son isnt a good idea.. if kids see you two fighting or see's you upset all the time they pick up on things so easily, they wont be happy if your not happy...
2006-11-01 07:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the last chance, she chose this other man over your relationship if it happens again you are gone. dont stay in a unhappy relationship for your kid your son will grow up aroud fighting and could be confused to what love is, and you know what he is to young at this point to really see what is going on. f she doens't end this relationship with her work boyfriend then leave. But beware she has done it before she will probably do it again.
2006-11-01 07:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's a better question. I'd think you should put a total stop to it at once or make the decision to stay regardless of her activities. You can be a father no matter where you live....and you deserve better than a floosie...and this sounds like what she's headed towards being! Good luck!
2006-11-01 07:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you think too much is too much. Kick her sorry butt to the curb she obviously thinks you are an idiot if she thinks that you dont know what is going on . Why did you allow it in the first place ? I think you have had enough already that is why you are asking all of us for an opinion. Well mine is you have already had enough . Dont stay for the kid that is a mistake. Your son will grow up alot happier if he is not in a house that is full of arguing and fighting . Good luck and god bless.
2006-11-01 07:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you that staying for your child is the worst thing you can do... Leave her, she is obviously into the guy, if she hasen't stopped talking to him and i'm guessing that it's only gonna go further with them, If it wasen't gonna go any further, then she would of stopped right away without a second thought... Don't you think you deserve better then that? You should if you don't...
2006-11-01 07:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋